Asked in Law & Legal Issues
I'm 14 years old and worried that I might be pregnant and I don't know what to do My mom doesn't know I'm not a virgin but can I get a pregnant test at this age?
It's a good idea to let your mom know what is going on. She will probably be more understanding than you think. However, in some states you can go to the doctor to find out, without letting your mother know that there is a possibility that you are pregnant. I am a mom and I went through this with my daughter, and yes she will probably yell and be upset. This is part of being a parent. You really need to let your mom know, if you are you are really going to need her support.
You need to tell your mom. I know you don't want to hear this but at age fourteen you are WAY to young to have sex. I am only 21 and think that I am just barely old enough and I am married. Please stop before you have a child that you can't take care of. I know you think that if you love your baby it's all it will need, but that is not true. You need to be able to provide for it on your own and at 14 you just simply can't. Good luck. Yes. Pregnancy tests are over the counter products. If you are afraid that someone will see and tell your mom that you bought it, go to a big discount store like Wal-Mart and go thru the self check-out. In most states your local health department or family planning center will do the test for free, offer an exam and prenatal (care for you if you are pregnant). Most of them will help you to examine your options. They also can help you choose method of birth control that works for you. Even if you are only 14, many states still protect your right to privacy, and the nurse or doctor will not tell your parents ANYTHING about your pregnancy test. Call and ask before you go. There is more than likely a free pregnancy hotline in your local yellow pages.
The biggest thing is that you are only 14 and you are scared! If you were my daughter, I would want for you to come to me for help. I'm sure that I would be shocked at first, but a mother's job is to be there for her children. Your mom may really surprise you. Chances are, after she gets over the inital shock, she is just going to want to help you to do what is best for you.