I am a 13 year old boy but i want to dress up like a girl but my mom wont let me is there anyway i can do this before i get to 17 to buy the clothes myself or is there another way please help some1?

Answer 1

Here's a link to a site that both you and your mom should read. There's no nudity, and there are forums and an overall discussion of crossdressers.

http://www.lauras-playground.com/cd.htm

Due to your age, you most likely will have to keep your crossdressing 'in the closet', so to speak, until you are an adult and live on your own. Thriftstores (Goodwill, Salvation Army in the U.S.) often have clothes for cheap prices. Also Google online for crossdressing teens - there are both crossdressing forums and blogs where you can seek advice and better understand your feelings. Never meet up with adults from online, however.

At your age, I would advise you never to crossdress in public, simply because there have been incidents of violence (and in a some cases, murder) against crossdressers. When you are an adult, and if you're interested in crossdressing publicly, you would find more opportunities to go to clubs geared towards crossdressers and meet people with the same interests in metropolitan areas.

The most important thing to realize now is that some people (including family and friends, and future relationship partners) will never understand or accept your interest in crossdressing, no matter what kind of person you truly are. Being interested in crossdressing doesn't make you a pervert, and it doesn't mean you're less of a guy than any other male. While crossdressing is a way to explore your sensitive side, it also doesn't mean that you have homosexual feelings (there's nothing wrong with being gay); in fact many crossdressing males are heterosexual. Avoid arguing with your mom, but do keep talking to her about your feelings; if she's willing, see if both of you can go to counseling, instead of letting this issue drive a wedge between you.

Answer 2

It is not at all uncommon for people of one sex to be interested in dressing as the other sex. Girls have been allowed to do this openly since the 1960s, for instance. Boys have increasingly been allowed to adopt "female" dressing patterns, as well: earrings, long hair, utility skirts/kilts, makeup, etc., and some celebrities also dress in gender-bending ways.

The reason why your mother doesn't want you to dress like a girl is because she has an irrational fear that you are gay, transexual, transgender, or transvestite. You should spend some time researching those words at the library and see if any of them apply to you. Maybe they do--maybe they don't! Being gay, transexual, transgender, or transvestite is not medically or morally or otherwise "wrong," but it does instill fear in other people who don't understand, such as your mother.

Because you are so young, you have limited options. One thing you might do in the next few years is see about talking to a counselor or psychologist who understands being gay/transexual/transgender/transvestite--not to help you change who you are but to help you cope with your mother and other people. This may be difficult, depending on where you live. This kind of psychologist can help teach your mother about the issues that are in play as well.

Otherwise, continue to negotiate with your mother about your dressing, but avoid fighting. Perhaps you can reach a compromise, e.g. maybe she will eventually consent you wearing makeup or certain clothes on occasion. Whatever you do, don't try to pick a fight or steal or otherwise pursue your interest in girls' clothes in some kind of negative or destructive way. If you have a compelling need to wear women's clothes, you can do this in private on your own time, or under your clothes, etc., if this brings relief. By the time you are 15 or 16, like most teenagers, your clothes will be an extreme definition of who you are anyway, and perhaps by then your mom will have warmed up to the idea or no longer care.

Good luck!