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Pictures. Always. Or record a conversation regarding it. Written proof is always good.
If you are really, truly sure, hire a private detective, and start keeping an eye on expenses and bank accounts.
Cheating is cheating no matter where it occurs and (with proof or uncontested) is still a legal cause for divorce. Abandonment is a different issue, particularly if your husband was in military service in Iraq. If the abandonment happened when he came back, that is another story.
Most cheating husbands will deny they are cheating. Be calm and either get a friend to go with you when you feel he is out cheating and follow him or, hire a detective for three or four days to be sure he truly is cheating and then you can give him solid proof you need and you will have to decide if you want to live with a cheater.
If he wants you to produce a phone bill, you should have nothing to worry about. If you aren't cheating on him it should all be fine. If you are cheating what is the point if you want to be with someone else divorce him, obviously he doesn't realize how good you are and wants to go for some other lowlife. If he is you deserve better, Get out there, Do your thing and hopefully it will all turn out okay.
Get a divorce. First one to file has an upper hand right off the bat. If you can get proof of his infidelity, that'll help your case a lot.
See if you could get some proof of cheating. Perhaps you can call some numbers you've found on his phone. When you do, figure out what you'd like to do from there. You would have to decide if you want to stay with him knowing what you do.
A Lasso of Truth and Bullet Proof Bracelets.
What I would do is tell him that she is cheating and give him some good proof and if he dosent want to believe you then that's his choice. Hey! You warned him!
If you know your husband has texted this other woman a great deal then you must have read some of the emails. If there was no incriminating evidence in those emails with regards to them cheating perhaps they were not. If you have found not found the evidence and kept a few copies of those texts then you have no real proof. If this woman lives in the same town or city then the only way you can prove for sure your husband is cheating is by hiring a detective. Interview investigators and see what their price range is. Generally one weekend of an investigator following your husband should prove one way or the other if he is truly cheating on you with this woman. If you cannot afford an investigator then decide when you think he is seeing this woman (generally on weekends or working late at the office) and ask a girlfriend if she will join you to follow your husband in your friend's car to get the proof you need.
If you know for sure and have proof he is cheating on you then you need to move on and dump him. Find somebody that cares for you as much as you do for them and cheating should not happen again. Don't rely on a friend telling you he is cheating, you need to see it for yourself to be certain.
Only if you have proof. Maybe its a friend you may be mistaking and I have done that before.