If a guy is unhappy in a relationship and wants to be with you what do you do?

Answer 1

You do nothing. A man is quite capable of ending a bad relationship without any help. If he stays its because deep down he wants to. If you have talked it over, then you need to tell him that nothing can happen until he ends it with her. Don't even guarantee that you will be there for him, tell him that when he does end it and IF you are not seeing anyone at that time, you MIGHT agree to a date with him. Don't let a man in a relationship know how you feel about him EVER. Absolutely nothing! This man, if he is "truly" interested in you, WILL NOT use any excuse to be with you if he's "unhappy" in his current relationship. In fact he should have never approached you to begin with! A man will leave his "unhappy" or "unhealthy" situation "immediately" for someone better, such as yourself, or better yet for himself, before he would even think about getting involved with someone else; he has to have the time needed to heal from the one he just left! If this man has expressed to you on more than one occassion that he is NOT able to leave the one he's currently with...regardless of how "unhappy" or "unhealthy"it is...then he is "lying" and has an alterior motive! DON'T BELIEVE HIM..IT IS OBVIOUS..HE IS "NOT" AVAILABLE! Listen to your gut instinct..it will never steer you wrong! If he "insists" on seeing you AFTER you have made it clear that you DO NOT want to be involved with him regardless of how "unhappy" he is...cut all ties and COMMUNICATION with him and MOVE ON! If you have decided that after all of this and you truly BELIEVE that he is being honest with you, make it clear to him that you are going to wait until he becomes completely "available" and utterly "unattached"to his previous relationship and that you will think" about "talking" to him about a possible future relationship with him.. ONLY if you "are" available! I would tell him that he has to clean up his past before starting something with you. If you go ahead and get involved with him, while he is still in a relationship, especially and unhappy one, his problems will become yours, you dont need that junk. I hate to say it but he sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. He could be lying to you just to have sex, ya know the sympathy factor, then afterwards, "not have the heart to leave her" alot of guys do that. If he is serious about wanting to be with you then there should be no obstacles in the way, clear the road before climbing the mountain........