If a guy tells another guy he loves him is he gay?

Answer 1

Some men are not comfortable with this and take it as offensive. Others are what is referred to these days as Metrosexual. These men are not nessesarly homosexual, but are in touch with their feelings and may qualify the statement without question to sexuality. Women tell their 'girlfriends' they love them all the time and society is ok with this; Society mostly meaning men. It is healthy to have loving relationships, so why can two men love each other (as friends, or 'like brothers') in society today and not be viewed as homosexual? Love is universal. A man would love his cat, his car, his job, why not his friend? The statement maker should look at the method of expressing his love as many men do; with actions and with alternate words.

Answer 2

Telling Possibly Straight Man You Love HimI would have to say yes, let him know, however if you are sure he is totally "straight" then do it in a respectful way. Let him know that even though you have feelings for him that are more than what he has for you, you will respect his boundaries, not come on to him, and that being friends with him is better than not having anything to do with him at all. If he is straight and he knows you are gay and he is still friends with you, telling him how you feel and showing him that you respect him and his way of life is very respectful and I believe he will respect you more for your honesty. From Personal ExperienceI have a straight male friend that I began having feelings for, I let him know how I felt, he found it very complimentary, but I also let him know that I would never disrespect him. We have actually become closer (nothing sexual) and our friendship was really great. Over time the feelings I had for him, though still there, seemed to be a bit foolish to me and I moved on without compromising a great friendship.

Personally being straight that would make me feel uncomfortable. And worry do i come across as gay it would make me feel bad.

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Another View:

If he is straight, it would serve no purpose to tell him other than for you to get your feelings for him out in the open. Whether or not you tell him, he is not going to feel the same way. And he may become very uncomfortable around you. If the friendship is one you value highly, don't muddy the waters. He may already suspect your feelings for him, but having them confirmed may not be the best thing for the friendship.

Good luck with whatever you choose to do.

Answer 3

Depends -- when you hide something as important as that, it keeps the friendship hobbled. On the other hand, it could freak your friend out. On the third hand, if it ends the friendship, it wasn't much of a friendship to begin with!

If you decide to tell him, keep these two things in mind: (1) It may take him a little time to think about this. Give him the time he needs. (2) Chances are, he won't want a sexual relationship. Remember that "No means No!"

Answer 4

Tell him that he's a real cool guy and that if he were gay you'd totaly date him. That way it sounds as if you were just paying a compliment, then again it also indicates that you might be interested, inuendo. If it all falls apart then just shrug it off by saying that you were just trying to be nice and arn't really interested.

Answer 5

not necessarily; there's lots of kinds of love..spiritual; friendship, love like a family member; if it's physical love that this person has then perhaps he is..