Hi again
Yup, we gotta teach these guys to communicate. They are still in a primate stage! Didn't you know they swing from trees? LOL I think the problem with your relationship is you've been friends for a long while and you are both like a pair of good old worn in slippers. I think if you go away on a vacation for a week or so, or move out for a bit it may shock him into realizing just how much he misses you. Why not give it a shot? I do think he loves you, but he's taking you for granted.
I just had to communicate my feelings to my husband of 34 years. I have been working my butt off (and so has he) but, he hasn't been taking the time to sit down and have those talks over tea we usually have. I'm willing, he says he's too tired and is going to veg out in the den. Yeah right! One of his friends phones about fishing or going to a hockey game and you can't shut him up. Since my husband turned 60 I said to him "I feel like a blasted ghost around here!" Of course he denies any part in it and so I said, "You know what ... I'm trading you in for 2 good looking 30 year olds!" Of course I wouldn't do it, but sometimes you feel like just saying to heck with it and moving on. It never seems to go away and it appears the woman is going to always have to kick their cute little behinds to get their brains working. LOL
I wish you luck hon.
Marcy
Hi there
Oh boy! You have a hard one on your hands. Unfortunately, there are men out there of few words. It isn't that they don't feel love or care about you, they may have come from a family that didn't talk about these things and he has no idea how to talk you. You are going to have to teach him, like I had to teach my husband (and I'm still working on it. LOL)
Learning communication skills is not about arguing. Ask him nicely to sit down and that you want to talk to him. If he starts to get up and move into another room then say, "Please come back and talk to me, because if you don't, the I'm leaving this relationship!" I have no doubt he's call you dramatic and with a huff sit down and be rather belligerent about it, but at least you have got half his brain willing to listen and that's a start. Tell him how you feel and how he hurts you by not communicating. If he just sits there then ask him how he manages to work. He'll look quite puzzled and this is when you zip in "Well, you have to communicate at work in order to do your job and listen to orders or give orders, so why does your mind shut-off the minute you walk into the house?" You've got him! I've never met a man that can answer that one. He may fumble and say, "I have tough days at work and I just want to come home and relax." Don't buy it! He can sit and communicate with you and then relax. If you can teach him that taking an hour over a cup of coffee, even a drink and touching base with each other the rest of the relationship will become much smoother because you'll both know where the other stands in certain situations.
Please don't feel alone. The biggest complaint I hear from my girlfriends is their mates don't communicate. Some of them have allowed this behavior and some of us have never accepted it and work at it. Although not 100% perfected (never will be) it's better than nothing.
Yes, if your partner doesn't communicate it will ruin a relationship. We're human and our partner (married or not) should be not only your lover, but your best friend. If they aren't willing to discuss things with you then it's time to move on.
Good luck hon Marcy
Unfortunately, the male and female species will always battle with good communication skills. Men seem to keep things simple in life and understand their own species because they keep things simple and understand each others grunts and groans as a response. LOL Women tend to get a little too flowery or upset over matters that sometimes can be quite simple. So, the question is, "Who is At Fault and where does one begin?" It's no one's fault. Women are emotional (due to frequent hormone changes and a good brain in their head) while men keep things simple and try to not let things affect them. Women have brains like steel traps, while men are forgetful at times and in most cases doesn't stand a chance with a woman when it comes to a debate over something bothering them.
Here is an example: Both of you decide to have guests over for the evening and one of the guests is obnoxious and almost ruins the evening. Your male partner will be annoyed to some degree, but his answer to this problem is to grunt at you "That guys a jerk (putting it nicely here) and don't ask him back!" and then he forgets it and moves on. After guests are gone, the female will tell her mate what a creep the guy was and go on and on about it and will often continue the conversation in bed putting a wet blanket on any aspect of a romantic night together.
Communication takes practice and my husband and I have been married 34 years and our communications skills are pretty good, but not 100% and they never will be. I have come to realize that men can improve on communication, but will never truly change enough to please us women. I too can get very frustrated when my husband doesn't communicate well. We both are on tight schedules, so communication is right up there on my list. I like things, neat and clean because it uncomplicates life. Men think they get it and do their thing, but let's face it ... the poor guys can't win for losing.
Is lack of communication a reason to quit on a relationship? Absolutely not! It takes time and practice, but, if you have a partner that isn't going to listen and is stubborn and doesn't care, then it's time to move on. My husband and I go for quiet walks to discuss some things. It's soothing to walk along the river or a beach or even through paths in a wooded area. Nature is calming. Many of our problems are resolved by taking long walks. We also will discuss our day with each other over a cup of tea when he gets home from work. The TV is not on, nor music ... it's just him and I, and this way we each focus on what the other is saying.
Talk to your mate and express how you feel. If you are a woman then try to keep things in perspective, don't get too flowery about the subject and don't go on and on about a subject (us women have a habit of doing this.) The man wants to discuss it once in most cases and a resolution to the problem and then move on.
If you leave this relationship because of lack of communication you aren't going to find too many guys out there that are much different. At first when they date they may really strain themselves to appear that they are listening to every word you say, but after a few months together this effort will soon drift away.
Good luck Marcy
Break up with her like you would anyone else. You must have a reason for breaking up with her, so state your reasons and then ask her to leave. If you don't have a valid reason then its up to you to sort out the problems of where she will go etc
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No, that's just an excuse that is covering up the true reason for considering divorce. I thought married people got a break on taxes.
To you it might not be a valid reason but to them it could. If you feel it's not right ask the person why it is so important to them and listen to what they have to say. Then you can both decide what is right. I don't know the reason therefore I can just give this opinion.
A written communication documents the information communicated, including to whom the information was provided and the date of the communication. Verbal communication is a valid form of communicating information but does not document the communication.
No and there is no valid reason to.
Well, yes. Whether it's a valid one depends on what your situation is. For example, it's a valid reason not to watch TV, but not a very valid one to skip school.
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If you have a valid reason, certainly.
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