You can't EVER ensure a narcissist is "gone". But usually they are only out to get whatever benefits them. If he is showing interest in you and/or the child, that will disappear once he finds his next target.
A malignant narcissist cannot magically shed his damaging patterns of behavior to bestow unconditional love upon his child. A good parent is one who places his child's needs above his own. A narcissist always places their needs first.
Yes!
yes they can, in my experience the child's narcissism is a result of being raised by a narcissist ,
Educate her on narcissism, remind her of how awful he is. I was in a similar boat with my cousin. Her ex N was so terrible that we thought he was a sociopath at first and his attitude was often compared to that of a serial killer. He would laugh at that kind of thoughts on him, but he was truly ill. The utter lack of emotion for things he'd done. He would seem to get off on watching her hurt. We recently found out he's a Narcissist. The more she can learn and apply the symptoms, the easier it will get to move on. Personally, in my situation I would find times in her relationship where he would be mimicking her likes and dislikes and each time I showed her that he WAS constantly saying that everything she says is the same as him and every emotion he had were exaggerated and she soon became more aware. Luckily I had things to compare it to. It's not an easy thing. Her ex sounds like a pathetic human being. He discarded her and disappeared I assume means he also discarded the child and that is disgusting but for a narcissist it really is nothing out of the ordinary. She is better off without this person. Distance herself from everything pertaining to this person. Block him from re-entering her life at a later date, which I have noticed Narcissist's will do. Come back for more. The child is lucky that he's gone. Take care and good luck.
Probably. I think I know her.
Unfortunately, I would say it is more common for a child to work hard to try to please the narcissistic parent, sacrificing their own dreams, development and dignity in the process. The most likely reason I can see that a narcissist would disown a child would be that the child has decided to take a stand for him/herself. If a child insists on being an independent person who will not pander to the childish needs of the narcissist, then the narcissist will fight to win them back or disown them. In this case, the narcissist will always be looking for the opportunity for the child to come crawling back and give the parent the idolization the parent "deserves." Of course, there can be many other situations, other factors, and other outcomes. You have to objectively view the factors in your situation before coming to any real conclusions. Best of luck!
You keep reminding her that you are her child after all. Tell her that you are updated version of her!
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There are two articles on this topic that I am aware of and all she inherited were problems. The golden child might inherit, but I doubt the scapegoat will. http://gailmeyers.hubpages.com/hub/The-Death-of-an-NPD-Parent-A-Terminally-Ill-Malignant-Narcissist http://gailmeyers.hubpages.com/hub/When-a-Parent-with-Narcissistic-Personality-Disorder-is-Terminally-Ill
Are you referring to the "cycle" experienced by the Narcissist when he or she is devoid of narcissistic supply? Or are you referring to the way a child could develop into a narcissist? I have never heard of a "mutation phase" - do you have a reference, perhaps?
being ignored growing up, riddicule,,manipulation,not being pick up as a child
Highly unlikely for this one. If the child is a narcissist, her behavior would be manipulative and unusual regardless of her eyesight issue.