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If you have been friends with a girl for a while is there such a thing as telling her that you like her too early and scaring her away?



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Possibly, but what is more likely is telling her that you like her too much. If you want to have sex with her, and she does not feel the same way about you, it could end your friendship. Think about how she treats you, how she acts around you. Does she like to sit right next to you, and put her arms around you? Does she kiss you? Does she gaze into your eyes for long periods of time? If she is not doing any of these things, then she probably only thinks of you as a friend, which is still a wonderful thing.

It is easy to mistake friendship for desire, and to project your feelings onto another person, in that you desire the person, so you believe that she desires you. Do you put your arms around her, and hold her close? If so, how does she react? Does she pull away, or snuggle up closer? Non-verbal communication is often the best way to gauge how a girl feels about you, because sometimes people have problems expressing their feelings in words.

Don't be in a rush! Friendship is a very important thing, and can last much longer than a sexual relationship.


OMG i had this exact same problem and it almost completely ruined a really good friendship. You can't come on to strong you have to make sure she's the type of person that would appreciate something like that. Start by doing little things for her that make her notice you a little more. Slowly get closer to her and try to find out more about her. Then one day when you are alone tell her how you feel. Don't do something huge just be yourself. Don't rush anything!

Good Luck!-P


Okay, So my best friend ( who happens to be a guy) has had a crush on me since the beginning of this year, He asked me out twice before I said yes, it was so not expecting it so it scared me, but now everything is cool, he is a great guy and loves me, and knows everything about me, be careful with this kind of thing because a lot of people can ruin friend ship this way, but try to push the friend ship thing, sit close to her, flit a bit, I'll tell you one thing, girls like me over think things, so ask her once of twice, but don't push it, okay?


Well, i have a best friend whom I've know for 3 years, and now we have been going out for 5 months, he is my boyfriend and best friend. A relatonship with a best friend can be one of the best. Best friends have known each other for a long time, and there aren't any uncomfortable moments. There is a possible chance of scaring her away, don't come on too strong...she knows you, and that might scare her away. But then everything will get better!


I had the same problem. I became good friends with a girl. For 4 years, we've been friends. Until one day, I discovered how much I truly need her in my life since she went on an "Extended Holiday". For 3 weeks, I sat by myself, not inviting anyone to comfort me, thinking I can live with it. The Monday she came back, before school, I was for the first time in my life, excited to go to school. In the time she was away, I confessed my feelings to one of my best guy friends, who I've known for 8 years (Out of 14). I know that might sound gay but, I told him and he said he'll ask around if she feels anything towards me, other than friendship. Well, one day I told her a month or 2 later, and she said exactly this "I'm not ready for a relationship, I just can't deal with the stress". So now, I haven't said more than 100 words to her in the last 6 months.

So this is my advice to you. DO NOT, unless it's inevitable, tell her that you have feelings for her. Just stay her friend, and be as kind and as nice as you possibly can be, without over-reacting and being a freaky guy. Just do what YOU think would be the best way to approach her.

Good Luck :) Best Wishes.