If you love someone then how can you just walk away?

Answer 1

I guess every comment here is giving you the same advice of walking away and letting time heal all wounds. I am in a similar position. I fell in love with this divorcee with a child. Treated the kid like my own daughter and even had concrete plans to get married. Then she started to treat me cold and neglected me, i persisted on by being understanding to her work yet i always get last minute play outs like i am going to work or i am meeting someone else. Time became scarce for us and we just see each other for coffee once a week. There wasn't any sharing of intimacy and we even stopped holding hands. We were supposed to celebrate our 8th month anniversary together and that day came she stood me up with even notifying me at the end of the day that we are not meeting. After that i spoke to her about my dislikes of getting dates cancelled at the very last minute, she accused me of picking up a quarrel. I told her that the relationship was pretty strained and we have do spend some time together to do emotional repairs, we decided that heading for a holiday in Bangkok over the weekend was the perfect opportunity to heal it. That week she came up with so many excuses of not putting up in the same room with me. I felt weird on how could somebody give so many excuses. That Saturday that she reached Bangkok, we were supposed to have a nice and romantic lunch do some shopping and prayers followed by dinner and wine. Expecting to wake up in the morning with her and have a nice breakfast but i waited in the room till 3pm and there was never any calls to tell me lunch was cancelled. It was the final straw that broke the camel's back and i told her that i am out of this relationship. It's been more than a week and every single day i am fighting the urge to call her or text her. I knew that i made the logical decision to call it quits and knew that i couldn't tolerate the feeling of seeing her just once a week and sometimes not even having a conversation with her on weekdays. It still hurts alot and being a man i cried. Cried because if i never love her so much i wouldn't even tear. I have a tattoo of her name beside mine and i will cover it up with another tattoo. Among all these grief and hurt, i know i still love her but it wouldn't work out if we continued with this type of lifestyle. I am feeling stronger day by day and i remembered the day that when i made the decision i was in tears crying cause it was the most painful decision to leave someone that i truly love and believed that she is the "one". Fate and destiny i have challenged it before and i never emerge as a winner. I still think of her everyday but it was just happy past memories that i was hanging onto. I pray for her everyday and hope that she is happy. There were many unanswered questions in my mind; all the "Why's" but so what if i know the answers, will it change everything. I want to taste love again, someone that truly appreciates what i am and what i will do for her. My ex-girlfriend; i gave her the world and she didn't knew how to appreciate it. In every heartbreak or every hurdle we come across, just remember it's a lesson that we are learning and it's a blessing in disguise. In the depts of winter, i found the summer in me. There will always be someone out there that will love you the way you love them but until you are ready to accept love again, they will never appear. For me, even if there isn't anyone out there for me, so what? I am being myself.

Speaking from experience. I fell in love with a girl who really took my heart. i couldn't go a single day without talking to her, or testing her. she was my world. she was all i thought about, day in, day out. I called her my angel, she was like a princess. I had never been in this emotional state.

The same as above things went bad. we hardly talked.

the phone calls and texts died out.

I confronted her, she said i was making excuses, and causing pointless arguements. I told her my feelings, she didnt care.

so i plucked up the currage

and i walked away, man i cried tha night, i felt hurt and lost,

but after time i healed.

I went back out, and enjoyed my life.

i still think about her,

and i still love her. but walking away gave me a new path in life.

Answer 2

The thing is... you honestly can't. If you love them, like you said, how could you REALLY ever leave? Maybe losing close contact is what you mean, but I'm sorta doubting it. Now if you're talking about family, then the obvious answer is that you can't. They're family. Always have been, always will be. You can't CHANGE that. But if its romantic love you mean, then I suggest leaving TEMPORARILY, see how your life is without the person. At first you will miss them to an extreme. But later you may realize you never really loved them. Yeah sure, maybe had "loved" them and then things changed... but compare them to the closest person in your life. Compare how you treat each other. Is it really the same? No. I didn't think so. So honestly the best I can say is to just think about life in general. Is this person really someone you would want in your life if you never met them? Meaning never got so close? Maybe that'll help. I hope so :)