Authoritarian and authoritative are the same thing just different 'tenses' of the word. I think you are referring to totalitarianism vs. authoritative. Parenting is authoritative no matter how you approach any subject or issue in day to day life, unless of course you make the mistake of being your child's friend. Keep in mind, however, being authoritative doesn't mean being cruel. It means being kind but in charge. Treat every child according to how they respond best, I suppose.
There are three Baumrind parenting styles, they are as follows The permissive parent, the authoritarian parents, and the authoritative parent.
Today's psychologists have categorized parenting into many different styles. Some of the most common are positive parenting, strict parenting, spiritual parenting, slow parenting and toxic parenting.
The authoritative parenting style is between the authoritarian and permissive styles. Authoritative parents will discipline their children, but also show compassion and love. They're more flexible to a child's wants and needs, though they do not allow the child to do just anything.
There are 3 parenting approaches: permissive parents, authoritarian parents, and authoritative parents. In families with permissive parenting styles, children are allowed to determine their own schedules and what activities they want to participate in. Parents tend to avoid conflicts and prefer to treat their children as if they are friends. Meanwhile, authoritarian parents want to completely control their children. Complete obedience is expected of the child and the child's input is not usually considered relevant. An authoritative parenting style is a mix of both previous styles.
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The authoritarian method of parenting is where the parent acts as the authority. In this method of parenting the parent is not a friend to the child, they are to be viewed as an authority figure whom the children are to listen to.
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The authoritative parenting because it establishes certain boundaries without exasperating the children.
I would say an authoritative approach would be to brainwash kids into believing certain things and a less authoritative approach would be to give kids right information and to let them think what they want
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