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Is it abuse when you try the 'silent treatment' on your abuser in order to avoid abuse?
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∙ 18y ago
If it's mental abuse then this is called, "Head games" and that is what you are playing with him. There are many people that can't seem to express themselves well and there are reasons that you may never know. Most of these types of people never go for help so it just continues. It's tough living with someone who gives you the silent treatment or when they do speak they have nothing nice to say to you. If he just argues then he's frustrated and can't express himself, but abuse is when he could call you "ugly, fat, useless, stupid, etc." That's abuse! If he is physically abusive then it's time for you to leave. These people never get help and the physical abuse just becomes worse. If it's just mental abuse then there isn't a chance in hell that he will sit down with you and discuss this, so you are going to have to make some tough decisions. No one should have to live in this misery, so if you've had enough then I would move out! First see a lawyer and just don't leave or this could be classified legally as "desertion" and you could lose the house, any properties or monies and even the children. I wish you good luck Marcy I'm dating my boyfriend of almost two years. I feel that he's abusive.. and when he yells at me, I automatically go silent. Eventually if you give the silent treatment enough, it's natural to you and you can't help it. This makes the abuser madder than he already is. I don't consider it abuse though. Any time I speak it's like a maze with no ends. I never say anything that he considers "helping", so I stay silent. I would think it best to try to talk to your abuser to avoid him/her getting worse, and you forgetting how to speak for yourself.. but I really don't see it as abuse because they abuse you first! I really do recommend trying to talk it out though.. The more you do it, the better you will become at speaking for yourself, the better you will learn to become dependant rather than to submis yourself to the abuser.
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Just give them the silent treatment, or don't walk near them, if they say something- ignore it.
What does an abuser do when you withdraw and avoid seeing and talking to him after he treats you like garbage?
what kind of abuse are we talking about? physical, emotional? Is this a husband ? can you refphrase the question with more info so that I could answer better. :P Hi. Im talking about emotional abuse. I meant to ask what does the abuser do when he sees you getting stronger and begginning to think for yourself more and going on with life without him. When he hears your dating. And why does he spread lies and rumours about me, why not accept that im getting my self esteem back and let me be?
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Why would someone give you the silent treatment after you tell them you liked them?
The silent treatment is a form of abuse favored by verbal and emotional abusers.Abusers are terrified of intimacy and commitment. They are afraid to lose control. So they try to alienate their nearest and dearest to avoid these "pitfalls" and, sometimes, to preempt inevitable abandonment. Since your question is under the abuse section the above poster is absolutely correct, but you said "liked" so I am assuming a relationship hasn't started and I'll answer your question on that basis.Many young men are very shy and if a girl tells them that she likes them they simply don't know how to react (same goes for shy girls) but this doesn't mean they don't like them. Take it slow and easy and let this person digest what you've said. Don't snub them, but just smile when you see them. Let a little time go by and then ask them out.
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Abuse by definition is mistreatment or horrible mistreatment. Sadly, there is little one can do to avoid being mistreated badly as that mistreatment is not brought about by your own behavior but by the behavior of the abuser. If someone is mistreating you it is best to avoid that person. If someone is abusing you physically they are breaking the law and justice should be put in. Do not tolerate physical abuse as that tolerance will only encourage more of the same. If you do not want to put justice in by having the one who physically abused you arrested then walk away and stay away. If that person who abused you seeks out some sort of help to learn how to control their emotions and behavior then encourage them and show them compassion and if you are convinced they have corrected their abusive ways then acknowledge this and move forward. However, if someone continues to act abusively it is paramount you avoid this person and probably your responsibility to put justice in.
