Is it bad to get involved to a divorced man with a child even if he loves you but not sure if he wants to go on You have never been married nor have children you fell in love Now you are mad at self?

Answer 1

No, you are not a bad person (you didn't break up a marriage) and he's divorced and free to date anyone he chooses. It depends on how long the divorce happened regarding his feelings about getting into a relationship again. He is a good father if you are looking at the full picture carefully and he has the responsibility of doing the right thing for his child. A mother of a child can divorce and carry on as far as what it takes to raise a child, but a father of a child fresh out of divorce has to not only earn a living, but also learn mothering skills and that's a full plate in itself. He has to worry about getting a nanny in or taking his child to pre school and being sure his child is safe. It's mind boggling and because you have no children you should get the stars out of your eyes for a few minutes and start seeing it from his side of the looking glass. A good suggestion is for you to sit in a quiet place and really thing of what this man is going through. He may have bad memories of his marriage and one ugly divorce behind him not to mention a possible messy sole custody battle of his child. That takes a lot out of a person and it appears the first person in his life is his child. He wants to settle in, get use to working and raising that child and you don't know for sure if his wife has custody of the child and he may worry when that child is with her. You've got a really good guy here and one you should be proud of! Don't push this man for now and go out for an occasional dinner or ask him over for dinner and the odd time ask him to bring his child over with him or perhaps suggest going out with him and his child so you get to know each other. That child has been through a lot as well. It's not all about you darlin'. If you really love him then you need to ground yourself better and take this relationship VERY slow. Don't hesitate to tell him you didn't stop and think about what he's been through and would like to go out together for the odd dinner. Take this opportunity to ask him and his child over for a good home cooked meal. Don't be angry at yourself because you made a bit of a mistake ... learn from it! We all make them.