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Is it common for an abuse victim to inadvertantly develop the same attitudes as the abuser when in reality the victim has had enough and is fighting to preserve their rights and boundaries?
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∙ 17y ago
No it's not common. Usually women that are in physically abusive relationships walk in fear every day. Their heart is in their throat the minute their mate walks through that door because it's like walking on broken glass around him. The abuser has their victim so brain-washed she doesn't know what to do or where to go for help and often is too embarrassed to go for help. The abuser will keep her ignorant to many facts in life such as the law and also that there are good programs and much help out there for abused women. The abuser knows this! If a woman can play the same abusive game back to her mate then she isn't that physically abused, because men are simply stronger than women and he knows he has the power. If this person is mentally abused and it's one fight after the other, then why would anyone want to stay in this sort of relationship just to prove a point or out of pride. There are no rights or boundaries in this situation. There is a game we must all play in life and it's called trust, honesty, respect, love and being there as each other's best friends and not just as lovers. A relationship should never be a war zone. Marriage and life in general is simply a pawn game for all of us and abuse is unacceptable in a relationship and adds more stress to our lives. Women and men alike have the freedom, and the mind and strength to move away from anything that is not conducive or destructive to their lives. There are simply no excuses. If you or anyone you know is abused then take that risk and reach out and touch someone (Mental Health or one of the Abused Women's Centers in your area.) Aim for "flying free!" Good luck Marcy Becoming like an abuser from a victim's point of view isn't the same. An abuser has their own reality and you can't penetrate that. Best to see if you can both get to a therapist and figure out how to manage coexistence by empowering each person. Perhaps it is more a passage in the relationship where you both need to readjust. I notice this more around 17 to 20 years into the relationship and/or when the partners reach their forties. Just need a new deal instead of a vicious cycle of trying to one-up one another. Now, if it is abuse and the issue is a taboo subject, that may be a dealbreaker in continuing the relationship.
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For what was the south fighting?
To preserve their nation (the Republic of South Vietnam).
What the north's main reason for fighting in the civil war?
to preserve the Union
Why was the US fighting for South Vietnam?
To preserve the Republic from falling into the hands of the communists.
The initial goal of the federal government in fighting the Civil War was to?
Preserve the Union
What side was fighting for individual states the north or south?
The North was fighting to preserve the union while the South was fighting because they wanted out of the union, but not necessarily to become individual states.
What was South's reason for fighting in the civil war?
To preserve State's Rights, particularly as they referred to slavery
In this section of Lincoln's second inaugural address what claim does he make about the US?
they are fighting to preserve the union
Who was fighting for freedom the Union or The Yankees?
Both. The Union was fighting to end slavery, and preserve the Union. The South was looking to become an indepent nation, a right guarenteed by the Constitution.
What was Lincoln's goal in fighting the civil war?
To prevent the south from seceding from the north.
Is it true that in order to appease the Border States Lincoln first insisted that the North was fighting only to preserve the union and not the abolish slavery?
That wasn't appeasement. Nobody thought that Lincoln was fighting against slavery at that stage. He had no need to re-assert the original war-aims - which were simply to preserve the Union.
What did the southerns goal the hoped to achieve by fighting the civil war?
To preserve slavery and have their own nation where slavery would exist.
Why was the union army not known as the federate army?
The Union Army was fighting to preserve the federate states vs the confederate states
