Is it common for narcissists to have secret platonic relationships with women that stroke their ego?

Answer 1

I think that it is from dating and marrying one. It was a constant source of irritation to me that he was "secretly" on the phone to a female younger woman for up to an hour a day. He blocked me from seeing the phone bill, saying that he didn't want me scrutinizing the phone bill--though that cell phone bill was for family service. So I couldn't see my phone bill either or my daughter's bill. He said that he liked listening to her dating stories. He liked those stupid reality dating shows too. Anyway, he spent a lot of time on lavalife phone service and answering ads on Craigslist. One time I called back a woman who texted a picture of her breasts(naked) to him and she said that he had been telling her on the phone that he worked out and he wanted her to be "proud of his body". She even thought that was weird...even though she sent a pic of herself naked. He had several female friends that he had calling him only on his cell instead of the home phone while we were married. He even had his college friend's wife next door dropping by frequently to spill her guts about how difficult her husband was. He had a record of multiple restraining orders, even one by his mother, but these women just thought he was worth talking to. Now they commiserate with him about what a victim he is. I have a lot to say about him--the poster child for Narcissism--but I guess that's all that is relevant to this question.