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Is it normal for the family of the abuser to dislike or even hate you though you treated him with great affection and unconditional love?
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∙ 15y ago
If they feel possessive about him - if they feel that they "own" him - then, yes, they would react hostilely because you constitute the competition. You took him away from them. Why do you think he's an abuser? His family has the guilts, made excuses for him all his life and so ... they blame you! Often abusive people did not come from an abusive up-bringing, but were just spoiled by their parents and not taught the rules of the world. You can bet he is telling his parents (excuses on his part of course) that you were the cause of much of his anguish and that you deserved what you got. Don't buy into that! Don't waste your life feeling bad about what they think of you. You did nothing wrong, gave it your best shot. You have learned from this relationship and now you know what qualities to look for in a good man. Keep going and don't look back! Thanks for your vote of confidence. Seen so much of these types of men. Yes, it's normal he and his family would make you out to be the bad guy. Don't buy into it! He and his family have walked the line of excuses for his lifetime. You are a good person, deserve better and in a few weeks of staying away from the situation you will come to realize the "old you" and know you did nothing wrong. Hold that chin of yours up and get out with some good friends and you will realize even sooner what a terrific person you are. Don't let this man or his family strip you of who you are! Good luck Marcy
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∙ 15y ago
It is not uncommon for the family of an abuser to have conflicted feelings towards the victim, as it can be challenging for them to confront or accept their loved one's abusive behavior. It is important to remember that their reactions are not a reflection of your worth or the love you showed the abuser. Focus on your own healing and surround yourself with a support system that understands and validates your experiences.
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Are you being abusive when you're the one being emotionally abused and you withhold affection?
No. Many times the abuser will tell you you are being abusive as a way to manipulate you into giving affection, which continues the abuse, as manipulation can be a form of abuse.
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Was David Pelzer a child abuser?
No he is not a child abuser.
When was Love Your Abuser created?
Love Your Abuser was created on 2007-01-30.
What is the primary motive of the abuser in an abusive relationship?
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Should a victim who has been researching abuse demand to be treated with respect by their abuser in exchange for stopping their research?
No. And you can't bribe someone to treat you well. Either the person is going to respect you or they aren't. You can't say, "Tell you what, treat me well and I'll stop researching abuse." If you're the victim, you have no leverage. The abuser has all the control. The victim is usually not in the position to be making deals and demands. The only thing that will stop the abuse is getting away from the abuser. ~ T
How What if your ex husband abuser get remarried and look not abuser to new wife?
Give him time. He will.
When was Love Your Abuser Remixed created?
Love Your Abuser Remixed was created on 2008-09-23.
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What actors and actresses appeared in Abuser - 2009?
The cast of Abuser - 2009 includes: Sergio Montoya Gino Montoya
Will my boyfriend be an abuser if he yells at his mom?
Answer:The Boyfriend might become an abuser, but in the long run he will learn from his mistakes and i believe no, he will not become an abuser, if you feel like your being abused walk away =3
