Is it okay if you're the one calling your boyfriend 95 percent of the time to say good-night if he is otherwise very attentive and loving?

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Its seems perfectly fine. It doesn't neccisarily mean he isn't thinking about you. There could be a number of reasons why he doesn't call. Maybe he doesn't want to wake you up if your already asleep or doesn't want to seem clingy/dependant. Hehe, maybe even though your bf & gf he is still a bit shy and doesn't want to seem intrusive. Is there something that specifically reminds you of him before you go to bed? Maybe you have a reminder of him and he doesn't have a stimulus to remind him to call you at night. Even if you don't need a visual reminder or something of the sort, he might. That might just be how his brain works. Men are very visual creatures, and everyone is different. There are so many things that could be the case for this, its hard to draw an accurate conclusion without further study. Oh, and how long have you been going steady? We've been dating for nine months :) I don't really have a visual stimulus to call him, it's just something I think of before I go to bed because I've been calling him before bed for about a month on the nights I don't see him (about half the week). I kind of feel like a dork because it's always me calling to say good-night. On on hand, he works on those nights so I know that I'm not waking him up, whereas he might think he'll wake me up. But on the other hand, he never called every night before I started doing that. I guess I was wondering if it's better to make guys miss you or think of calling you, because they become or maintain more interest when they're pursuing you, even the ones that are already in love with you and vice versa. I'm wondering whether I should stop calling and get him used to calling again. Will that serve any purpose, make him miss me, help keep the mysterious part in our relationship? Or am I just being ridiculous and this would just deprive us of the tradition of my good-night calls? Does he seem to enjoy when you call? If he does then I dont see a problem. If he sounds like he is just in "grin and bear it" mode, then you might consider calling him less often, or just talking for a shorter time. You really can't draw an informed conclusion lest ye be a psychiatrist and you know every detail of the relationship. Sounds like he likes you a lot of he has been with you that long and I don't think 1 call per day would screw that up :) Good luck to you both.