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- The question shouldn't be 'is it wise to tell my husband I'm having an affair,' but why are you having the affair? If life is too intolerable for you living with your husband then have the guts to face it and not hurt his feelings by being irresponsible and selfish by hurting his feelings because one day he will find out. Once you have broken that bond of trust then in many cases there is no salvaging the marriage. Put yourself in his shoes. You are having an affair because something is missing in your marriage and neither you or your husband appear to have made much of an effort to communicate better or get marriage counseling. Wives or husbands can always go for separation and strike out on their own to clear their minds as to what they really do want in life. By having this affair you are not going to fill the hole you feel in yourself and it could lead to other affairs. It is up to you to decide if you continue the affair behind your husband's back, but if you do be prepared for the reality you could be losing someone very precious in your life.
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What if your husband is having an affair and is hiding all his assets?
It would be wise to get a lawyer before your husband manages to hide most of his assets.
Would you believe another woman's husband who contacts you and tells you that his wife TOLD him that she had an affair with your husband but when you ask her and your husband they both deny it?
It is not always wise to believe gossip. It could have happened, but unless you know this woman's husband you don't know if he's the jealous type or thinks his wife is cheating with every man she talks too. Have a discussion with her husband and ask what proof he has. If he has no proof and you obviously want to get to the bottom of this mess the hire a private investigator to find out if your husband and his wife are having an affair.
What must you do if your boyfriend does not allow you to leave him and threaten to tell your husband?
The best way is to tell the truth to your husband and sure he will be wise enough to understand you and appreciate that you told him the truth.
Having a affair with another woman?
confront him if he listens ok other wise find out what made him to have affairs with other woman.
How should you tell your mom your dads having an affair?
This is going to be hard specially for you. I don't think its your job to tell. Why don't you talk to your father and tell him that you know what he was doing. Tell him how you feel, even the pain that your having right now. And then give him something to think about by telling him that he needs to tell your mother personally and if he don't, you will be the one that will tell your mother. Don't let your father fool you or he might even lie to you, just be strong and do what's right.
Your husband is cheating with an older woman how can you stop him?
If you have all proofs and information about his affair. It will be wise to approach him with a mature conversation about it. Tell him how you feel, don't tell him what he is, or did. But talk about how important he is and your marriage is to you, and that both of you need to get help from a counsellor or a pastor, priest etc... No one can stop him doing what he wants to do. If he considers his marriage and family as very important, this could hinder him.
Can you sue your spouse for having an affair?
There is no need to sue your spouse, but you do have the right to file for divorce and in some states half of what he owns will go to you if you have the right lawyer. The person your spouse is having the affair with can be named as to the reason you are applying for a divorce. It would be wise of you to seek legal counsel to see what your options are.
Why is it hard to love your spouse again after his affair?
It is hard because you know he is not faithful. Psychology wise: Number one need for a person is consistency. It gives security and a sense of stableness which allows a good relationship. The affair breaks this which demolishes the consistency between the husband and wife. Also, affairs will demolished the self-esteem of both husband and wife.
What could happen if I keep loving a married man when I am already married?
Most people who have a conscience would feel haunted by the fact they are cheating on their husband and the affair would suffer because of it. Also you could run the risk of being caught by your husband and some men are not willing to forgive so easily when hurt that badly. If you love your husband then it would be wise of you to end the affair immediately. If you do not love your husband then do not keep cheating, but let your husband know the truth and file for divorce and then, and only then should you be seeing this other man. When in doubt put yourself in the shoes of your husband!
Is my husband having an affair when he and I live in two different states when he comes to visit he is distant and no intimacy sexually there is nothing.?
* It is possible he is having an affair, but both of you should have good communication skills and it is up to you to start communicating by asking him directly if he is seeing someone else. Humans can get lonely although that is no excuse for cheating on a mate. Don't second guess your husband and be wise enough to sit down with him and ask him what is going on. If he denies anything is going on and refuses to talk then express yourself by telling him you have your needs and refuse to live under the conditions you both are living under. You are in control and if you allow this relationship to go on as it is then you are an enabler.
Could you set aside the pain your husband gave you from his affair for the sake of your young children?
Each individual woman is different when it comes to forgiving her husband for having an affair and it is a personal decision by that woman. Once that bond of trust is broken it is difficult for the wife to trust her husband and generally that mistrust turns into questioning the husband if he should be late coming home to where he is going and eventually some men will simply leave the marriage on that basis. Not only that, but the wife feels demeaned or sometimes unattractive because she can subconsciously feel she is unattractive or her husband wouldn't have found it necessary to have an affair. Of course is most cases this is not true and the husband would cheat no matter how attractive his wife is. If your husband has had more than one affair before it is more than likely he will have another one. If this is the first affair he has had then humans make mistakes and it is worth trying to resolve problems in your marriage by seeking out a good marriage counselor, but only if your husband is willing. If your husband refuses to get marriage counseling or does not want to give up the woman he has had the affair with or feels threatened by you to walk away from the affair then no, it is not wise to stay in such an unsettled and toxic marriage for the sake of the children. If you and your husband decide to dissolve the marriage then try to do it on a friendly basis for the sake of the children as children often blame themselves for their parents divorcing. Make sure you try to appear to be friends in front of the children and agree that your husband pays child support and has joint custody of his children so the children can have both parents in their lives. If you do not want to be quite so drastic as to apply for divorce you could try separating for awhile to see if you and your husband cannot work things out, but be sure the children get to see him or even stay with this father on weekends and some holidays.
Why most affairs are not grounded in reality?
Affairs start by one or both people having a need that is missing out of their life. It could be as simple as just talking to the opposite sex and the great feeling that person is listening and cares about what they have to say or, the person wanting the affair may feel rejected by their mate and their sexual relationship is not going well so that person seeks solace in another and the affair starts. These people are 'looking for love' and not working on their marriage. To have an affair seems easiest to them and there is no reality to it because the person trying to fill their needs with another is not facing reality or trying to fix their marital problems. They fantasize about the person they are having an affair with and are not wise enough to realize that after they get to know the person they are having the affair with then the relationship can become mundane or they begin to realize that person is not as attractive physically or emotionally as they once thought and will pick away at the flaws of the person they are having the affair with and as soon as the novelty wears off the person who is having the affair is simply back to square one. 'The grass on the other side of the fence is not always greener.' Wise people know that no matter who one ends up with each individual has flaws and that relationships need working on.
