Is the first relationship after a break up still considered a rebound if it is 10 months after the break up?

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How long had the previous relationship been? Was the breakup messy? Do you still have feelings for this person? Are you still involved with this person? Are you concerned about the time period for yourself or are you worried about what other people will think? How do YOU feel about this new person? The only person who can really answer your question is you. If you feel ready to try again with someone new, then go for it. If you have misgivings, can you discuss them with your new flame? How about asking a trusted friend? There aren't really any rules regarding a suitable "mourning period". If you are lucky enough to find someone interesting enough to want to spend time with - good for you!! Good Luck.

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I think it depends like is this new person someone that you knew for a long time or someone that loved you and flirted with you for a long time and you werent interested in them until you finally gave up? If this is the case, yes, it is a rebound. Especially if its so you forget about your ex...

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i think that if you are desperate to find someone you could end up in a rebound relationship. if you know what you want then probably not. it definetely depends on your desperation level.

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I think it depends on how long you had been in your previous relationship. I personally would say it isn't a rebound relationships just because 10 months is quite a length of time but you have to look inside at your motives. If you're genuinely interested in the person and want to be with them then go for it but if you are still hesitant and hanging onto hope for your past relationship then no, you may not ready. Rebonds, in my opinion, happen within a short amount of time after a break-up and deep down you know you are dating the person just to fill an emotional void and to fulfill companionship. I think you know the answer :) Good luck, I know it's rough but hang in there!

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I agree with the above but with something else to add:

If your ex would tell you to get back together what would you do? That is your answer.

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I totally agree with the last answer. If you are starting the relationship ask yourself if your ex came up to you while you were in this relationship and begged you to try again, would you *want to* end the relationship you were starting (or try to maintain both at once) and *need to* tell your ex your focus was in this new place or would you even consider your ex's offer.

I was here exactly - I didn't think I would take my ex back - in fact in my mind I told myself I wouldn't then she was actually standing in my doorway crying and all bets were off. I hurt the new woman badly. The restart with the ex failed as I tried and she was just really confirming we made the right decision the first time. I relocated for no reason. I lost the friendship with the new woman (who was truly wonderful). I started my grieving all over and it was really twice as bad and took much much longer to work through for me personally because I was very committed to sacrificing to make it work (longer than 10 months the 2nd time). Just be over the other person and very comfortable alone before you drag someone into a nightmare and create one for yourself.

I think a good litmus test is if you were out and ran into your ex with your new partner, would you want your ex to be jealous or would you truly be indifferent.

Get a dog. Give and take your affection from that relationship for a while. You will get more out of it than you think you will and when you and that dog are truly a pack then start thinking about adding someone else to the pack.

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I think that you need to give more details about this relationship, the previous one etc. Emotions are not simple things