My boyfriend left his wife and kids to be with me I love him and want him to be with me only am I doing the right thing?

Answer 1

You seem to want someone to say 'it's okay' to be with this married guy. He has said that he loves you, but does he really know what love is? Do you know what love is? Did his parents separate when he was young? Maybe a broken family is all he knows. Is his wife older than you are? How many children will she have to clothe and feed and basically raise by herself? Does he justify his being with you by saying 'she doesn't understand him', or has she 'gotten too large giving birth to his children'. Does he tell you that she's not as sexy as you are? Whatever his reasons, when you take his money, you're taking food out of the mouths of his children. You may be having fun for a while, but he will get tired of you. This is a selfish person who'll leave his family, and sleep around with others. You'll either gain weight, get pregnant, or he'll just find someother person to 'be in love' with. Besides what makes you think that you're the only one he is 'with'? He's not with you 24 hrs a day, is he? ** A friend of the family had a decade long relationship with a married man, where they traveled all over the world. He told her that he didn't want anymore children, so she had her tubes tied and burned, so she couldn't accidentally get pregnant. A year later, he moved on to another woman, because he just 'didn't love her anymore'. Think about it: if he couldn't keep a commitment with his wife, how will he keep a commitment with you?

By:claudia

Each case will lead to various opinions depending on the extent of description. Every single person in a previous relationship deserves a second chance to start a new relationship. Refer to your illustration, he does not seem a good person. He is supposed to discuss this issue with the wife, at least trying to make her understand gradually that separation is the best for two of them or to ease her emotional pain. Beside that, he could not leave his children behind. That man must make a regular visit and pay child support if he does love them.

If he does everything right, you do not necessarily feel guilty or ashamed. One important note is that you must be aware of any future incidents and control yourself. There must be no grounds for you to feel jealous if he spends more time and money with the children or ex-wife since they were part of his life before.