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My husband had an affair with a woman while working overseas I found out and he is trying to make it up to me. What do I do if he still calls her now and then but will never leave us to be with her.?
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∙ 8y ago
It's time to sit your husband down and communicate. Affairs can happen when two people are apart from each other for a long period of time, but it's nevertheless wrong. The fact 'you' had to find out and he didn't admit it to you means he is still hoping to carry on this affair. You are too easy on him!!!! It's time to set him straight regarding the reality of what marriage is about and to make a choice between her or you! You are taking a risk, but if you continue to live with him under these conditions then you are an 'enabler.' If he decides to stay with you then 'no more phone calls!' He can't have his cake and eat it too!
Tell your husband to stop or you will leave. it makes no sense to keep conversing with the other women he HAD an affair with, if he trying to patch things up with you. he needs to know what is at stake here and that he's marriage should come first. you should take some time off for yourself and analyse the value of the relationship now. *don't cheating on him to get even, that will cause more problems, no matter what!!* You should also advise him to take some counseling classes by himself so can figure out why he is still doing this, if he loves. then after he's had sometime to himself then join him in marriage counseling to discuss the issueThere are two ways for chosing to live. One is the so called "safe way". It says: What do you care what your husband does provided your finnacial status and marital status remain the same? He will be the provider, he will be there for you on your family holidays, he will roll out the rubbish bin for you. The second way is the "risky way". It says: Why have anxiety in your life when you can choose peace? Peace will mean trading anxiety for a peace of mind. Your husband is addicted to the pleasure he got from someone else. Some women can live with this. Will he have another affair? 100% yes judging by the fact that he is still in touch with the pleasure of his current life. Every time he calls her he reaffirms his link with her and his desire for her. But if it is enough for you that he provides for you and rolls out the rubbish bin for you, cheer up and enjoy those moments. I am not sarcastic, I have seen these choices women make all my life. So you either want a handyman/provider at home who stll may leave you one day, or you want your life on the terms that restore your self esteam. Marriage counselling won't help, by the way. You cannot talk someone to desire you. Choose life every time, but also understand what kind of life you choose.
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follow him every where..try to offer him sex..if he does not accept it...then keep trying
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If she is trying to get him back, or still wants him.. Then I would believe your husband. If she is absolutely done with him, then believe her. Good Luck!!
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it sounds like he is in love with her, or he would be trying harder to make your marriage work.
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Unfortunately if he plans on doing so he will. Going into this affair you must have known the various reprocussions and now that those are optional you are going to have to decide if your just going to wait it out or tell your husband first. Hopefully you learned from this behaviour as to not repeat again.
How do you choose between your husband and your affair?
You have far more to lose emotionally and in every other way if you choose the affair. You know the answwer to this or you wouldn't have asked the question.AnswerWith all due respect, if you can't decide who you love and want to be with, they would probably both be better off if you chose neither. If either one of them made you truly happy you wouldn't be asking this question. Think about it. If you felt happy and fulfilled in your marriage, you wouldn't feel the need to cheat on your husband. And if your lover provided you with everything you felt your marriage was lacking, you would be trying to decide how to tell your husband that you want a divorce instead of trying to choose between him and someone else.However, if you really need someone else to tell you what you should do...Unless he's a real ogre, it's my personal opinion that you owe it to your husband to give up this other person and try to make your marriage work...but if he's such an ogre you wouldn't feel torn between him and someone else, right?ANSWER:First of all why do you want to choose between your husband and the man your having an affair with? Did your husband did something so bad that you decided to have the affair? If you don't have the love for your husband, I think it's time for you to let him go. He doesn't need all this pain from you. You can not choose who is the best or who is more loving. You are comparing your husband towards the man you had the affair, this is not fair towards your husband. You remind me of the man I married, comparing 2 different person is a no no to me.
Could you set aside the pain your husband gave you from his affair for the sake of your young children?
Each individual woman is different when it comes to forgiving her husband for having an affair and it is a personal decision by that woman. Once that bond of trust is broken it is difficult for the wife to trust her husband and generally that mistrust turns into questioning the husband if he should be late coming home to where he is going and eventually some men will simply leave the marriage on that basis. Not only that, but the wife feels demeaned or sometimes unattractive because she can subconsciously feel she is unattractive or her husband wouldn't have found it necessary to have an affair. Of course is most cases this is not true and the husband would cheat no matter how attractive his wife is. If your husband has had more than one affair before it is more than likely he will have another one. If this is the first affair he has had then humans make mistakes and it is worth trying to resolve problems in your marriage by seeking out a good marriage counselor, but only if your husband is willing. If your husband refuses to get marriage counseling or does not want to give up the woman he has had the affair with or feels threatened by you to walk away from the affair then no, it is not wise to stay in such an unsettled and toxic marriage for the sake of the children. If you and your husband decide to dissolve the marriage then try to do it on a friendly basis for the sake of the children as children often blame themselves for their parents divorcing. Make sure you try to appear to be friends in front of the children and agree that your husband pays child support and has joint custody of his children so the children can have both parents in their lives. If you do not want to be quite so drastic as to apply for divorce you could try separating for awhile to see if you and your husband cannot work things out, but be sure the children get to see him or even stay with this father on weekends and some holidays.
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