My wife has 80 of her texts to one number She works 3 to 4 days a week with this unmarried guy. She is online chatting at work all week with him. Am I being stupid?

Answer 1

I would definitely try to talk to her about it. This would raise anyone's suspicions. Talk to her without being angry and explain why this is upsetting you. Try not to use the word 'you' more like 'I feel like' and 'I don't understand'. This way it won't automatically put her on the defensive.

You're not being stupid. It is your duty to have a concern over her actions and interactions with other men. It is human nature to do so. Jealousy is not a measurement of how much you love someone, it is a measurement of how insecure you are. Be an adult and ask her about it, and ask her if you should be concerned about it. This will let her make the next move and allow her to know how you feel about it without getting offensive. My wife and I both work with members of the opposite sex and we have already had this conversation, to be honest with each other and let each other know if we get "hit on". If we do, we simply tell the other person "I'm flattered but I don't think my spouse will let me keep you if you followed me home." And that quickly settles that. Keep in mind that this will not be the first or last time you may have to go through this situation in your life and life is 10% of what happens and 90% of how you react to it.