Should a man slap a woman back if she's slapped him in the face and he didn't deserve it?

Answer 1

Short answer: NEVER!!! two wrongs don't make a right.

Adults scold and punish our children for invoking the "she hit me first" defense, so we adults shouldn't expect it of ourselves or of each other ... and the courts might punish you just for being so stupid as to think like a child.

Violence is never pretty, no matter where it comes from.

The law* about self defense is (roughly) do ANYTHING YOU CAN to retreat from a violent attack, and only when all possibilities are exhausted, the very last resort is to use violence to save yourself from authentic danger or harm ... or you could find yourself in a whole world of trouble anyway, ESPECIALLY with a woman involved.

Get witnesses or solid proof (or both), and call police (even if only to get it on paper so you can later show a history). Expect to be accused of exaggeration or lies.

Men accused of violence against women WILL be arrested, while the opposite is unlikely to be true ... this social "rule" is so powerful, it might as well be law, and all police and the courts will act this way.

You always have a wide variety of choices on how to act in any situation, and it's normal to want to hurt the person who hurt you ... you'll feel better for a while, but whether a few seconds, or a few years, you will regret not having made a wiser choice. Don't let your emotions get the better of you. And think: Do now what you later will likely tell yourself: "I should have ..."

Finally: What the hell are you doing with a woman who hits you!

Somebody here, (or both of you) needs to get counseling. (It takes maturity, wisdom, and strength to admit needing, then getting, help.)

As I said, you always have many choices, another one is to leave.

(*I am NOT a lawyer, but I know what I'm talking about.)