Should adpoted children have right to communicate with their biological parents?

Answer 1

Answer 1:

Many adoptive kids do communicate with their birth mothers. Its common. Some birth mothers don't want to, and then they don't. Sometimes its just letters or sometimes its face to face. Unfortunately , its not the adoptive child's decision on whether his birth mom or dad stays in the picture.

Answer 2:

It is a complex issue since there are good reasons to respect the privacy of biological parents who give up children for adoption, and also good reason why children should be allowed to communicate with their biological parents.

Possibly the strongest argument in favor of such communication is that people often need to know the medical history of their parents in order to better understand the medical aspects of their own genetics.

It is also true that everyone feels some need to know and understand their own family history, and without such knowledge a person has a uncomfortably rootless feeling. It would be very weird not even knowing what your actual ethnicity was (since some ethnic groups have a very similar appearance to others, and can't necessary be identified at a glance - and it becomes even trickier for people of mixed ethnicity).

On the other side of this argument is the fact that if a woman has chosen to give up her child rather than raise it herself, she has a right to do that, and it is not fair to force motherhood upon her. She could, after all, have had an abortion instead, so we might appreciate her generosity in carrying the child through to term and giving birth, which is not an easy process.

Sometimes, it is also generally embarrassing to be confronted by children whom one has given up for adoption. People then feel that they have to explain why they did not want to raise their own children, and generally that involves some admission of failure. People are sometimes too poor to take care of their own children, or have other problems which would make them unfit as parents. That is not a nice thing to have to admit. Maybe the woman in question is just antisocial and doesn't like children.

Again, not a comfortable thing to admit. If biological parents cannot count on their own anonymity when giving up children for adoption, many will instead choose abortion. One never has to explain anything to an aborted fetus. They demand no explanations. So in satisfying your own curiosity, you may be doing a disservice to future generations of adoptable children who may not be born.

So, in the end, there is no right or wrong answer; the issue is too complex for any simple solution.