Should you divorce your husband after finding out he was having an affair with an employee 20 years younger for two years and kept it a secret but now says they were just good friends?

Answer 1

It is a huge breach of trust and it is how you deal with it that will decide where you go from here. It really depends on if you want to and feel you can try to forgive him and stay together and if this is the decision it would be in your best interest to attend marriage counselling together. If you decide you just cannot get by this, forgive him or trust him again then it would probably be in your best interest to separate to take time and sort your feelings out to decide what to do from here. Whatever may happen do what is best for you and what you can live with.

(another view)

There is no ricipe for determining if you should get A divorce. The only person who can make that decision is you.,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, Have an open mind on this,, Think on this, Where you happy in your mariage before this new info. Where you satisfied with your sex life? Was your husband attentive to you?,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, I really do not understand where the word "cheat" comes in on this subject, It is "dishonest" but only because someone came up with the idea and everyone said that's A good idea. ,,,,,,,,,,,,,, To cheat you need to (give less or instead of). If he was giving you exactly what he would have in other instance then you were not cheated out of anything. ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, Is this something that you can learn to live with if you wanted to? Are you willing to give up your lifestyle as it is now because of what you think is pride? Just because your husband (or wife for that matter) got some on the side does not mean that they love you any less. (((((((((((((It boils down to this)))))))))))))))),, You love him? He loves you? Is he going to leave you for his woman on the side? Can you trust him to use protection?,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, If you said yes to all except the leaving for other woman then you might want to adjust your thinking A little.,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, BUT!!!!!!! You need to let him know that you are in A relationship with him, and you get to have input in his "X-Tras" ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, If all this makes you crazy as A lune, Then Go today and file for A divorse, And don't back down.