Should you let your intelligent responsible 12-year-old daughter date guys?

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Answer It all depends on your personal beliefs but personally i would say no, she is still very young and has a lot of childhood to focus on. However if you think it may be beneficial to her perhaps let her go on a date whilst with the family, or invite a guy around for tea - like sort of a compromise. Answer In my opinion (father of two) no. Twelve is much too young to be dating and chasing guys. It will skew her thinking at a time when she needs to be thinking about education and having a good basis for high school. She's still a kid, don't foist a whole stack of mature problems on her.

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So many parents think its so bad for there young children to date. There is nothing wrong with it if you know that your daughter is responsible. I think its fine and that you need to respect that your daughter is growing up Answer I would...

Okay, I'm about 12, almost 13. So this is coming from a 12-year-old (or soon-to-be teen) perspective. I would. I've never really dated a boy before, or had a "boyfriend", but from time to time at this age, we have our occasional crush & then we get tempted to "date" or "go out", as we call it now.

I've had a couple friends my age "go out" or whatever you'd want to call it. It's not really a huge thing. We don't do anything special. The biggest thing we'd actually do at this age, if we were "going out" with somebody, is probably holding hands & probably a peck on the cheek. It all depends. I've never really heard a 12 year old kiss anyone like that on the cheek or anything, (biggest was holding hands) but it can happen.

In my class, holding hands is like the biggest deal to people. Even though to older teens, late 20s, would think, "Oh, me & my bf/gf do that all the time... no big deal." But to us... it's a big deal. Aha. Even hugging is a big deal here. You know, getting a hug from your crush, or even hugging them. Yea, big deal.

We, as the age we are... well, if we were to say "go out" with somebody... we'd actually be way too shy to do anything. To talk to them is just a challenge for us. We're still kids, still growing to learn about these things. It's hard for us to talk to someone we really really like. And it's REALLY hard for us to hold hands with them, hug, & etc; probably the simplest things for some of you to admit to do with your husband, boyfriend/girlfriend (older people), etc. You know? That's why it's sorta a big deal to us.

We couldn't do any more, actually. We're just... really shy. Twelve is kind of young, I've got to admit, maybe thirteen? Who knows. But if i were the parent, & i were to let my daughter date at twelve, i wouldn't let her have any one-on-one dates yet. Sure, maybe going to the movies with a group of friends would be fun & probably more suitable if the parent was with them. But nothing more than that... because, think about it, if we WERE going on one-on-one dates, we'd be too shy to even speak, to do anything good. I know i'd be way too quiet & shy to do anything. Plus, it's still too early for one-on-one dates at this age. I'd say REAL dating should happen at 16.

We're still maturing. We're obviously not quite grown up yet. This is really up to you. I just gave my opinion. I know that you as the parent, will make the best decision for your daughter.

I say, she should go for it... hope i helped. :)

-HugsForAll

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I agree with the top answer I'm a 14 year old girl and when i was twelve going out or dating was exactly like that only hugs and man was that hard i think even now it would be terrifying for me, but some of my friends are beginning to get less shy around the guys they like but no one is really ready for one on one dates but I'd say let your daughter date because if she starts worrying about whether shes allowed to or what you might think it will just cause unnecessary worry for her. If she already has asked you if she can go on a one on one date I'd say no meet him first and say they can go on group dates that way she may not hate you forever. But letting her go on group dates will boost her confidence and and self esteem

PS. When people my age actually like someone then hold hands they soon realise they don't like each other one of my friends only lasted 12hours (beyond pathetic)

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12 is stupidly too young. It is amazingly too young. If you allowed it, in many states you could be considered a child abuser.

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No, you should not. A 12 year old is still a child, and at that age dating should not be considered. Wait until they are teenagers at least.