If you have decided that you deserve better and do not want him in your life anymore--then go for it and tell her. Would you want to be her? Wouldnt you hope that someone would have the balls to tell you if your man was cheating on you with someone else? Also, I think telling her calls him out on the terrible things that he has done both to you and to her and god knows what other women he's hurt. Maybe it will show him that his selfish actions have consequences. Also, in a way, it allows you to get some of your own dignity back--especially if you didn't know about the girl in the first place. You'll send a clear message that you are not going to sit around while some man runs carte blanche through everyones life indulging his selfish whims at the emotional expense of others.
Be prepared though. She will not believe you. You should be able to have some sort of proof exp. emails etc. Even then she still may not believe you. You should also be prepared for the man to never talk to you again. But if your motive was true, and you weren't doing it to break up the relationship so you could have him...or some other sort of revenge...then telling is the right thing to do in my opinion. If everyone had the attitude "it's not my business" when they witness horrible things--what kind of world would we live in?
If they smell different you know they are cheating on you
also if they start scratching in that place alot *omg they had sex with someone esle :-O*
Do you Love her? Do you respect or care about her at all? Why are you being so selfish you abused her trust, disrespected the relationship you had no matter how well you think you are keeping this secret it will eat at you the shame and guilt every time your girl tells you she loves you or just looks into your eyes the lie is there. You did the cheating now the only way you can do right by her is to be honest AND TELL HER THE TRUTH.
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Or....Just go home and say " iron my shirt, bitch."
A:If she finds out on her own she will probably never forgive you. If you TELL her yourself, she will be upset and may leave for a bit, but chances are if you earn her trust back she will forgive you. It is far better to tell the truth than lie. At least if you come clean you have some sort of chance to recover your relationship (and a SMALL leg to stand on). Would you not like to know?
If you don't know her, keep your mouth shut. You do not want the drama it will bring you.
Depends what type of person both these people are. But remember, no one likes to be lied to, nor cheated on. Sure, it might cause drama if that's the type of person both of them are. Personally, i would tell her - but that's just me.
I asked this questions and am new to this so here is the quick backstory: I've been with the same man on and off for the past 3 years. We recently started talking again and he reluctantly told me he had a girlfriend but wasn't interested in the relationship and that same night we were intimate meaning he cheated on her. He then told me he broke up wtih her the next day, which he never did. We've been together and intimate for the last month and out of the blue he breaks up with me. I came to find out that he had really never technically broke up with her, he just told her he needed space and is now back with her. She is not my friend, I don't even know her but I think she should know he's been cheating on her with me for weeks, and was intimate with me as recent as 3 days ago. On top of this I'm pregnant and he's being a total jerk to me. I'm having a hard time thinking its okay to tell her, but I have nothing to lose in doing so except my dignity. Any help would be great.
First of all, if you know he has a girlfriend, you should not be with him. Consider what you would feel if you were the person cheated on.
Second of all, You should tell her because if this woman is your friend then she has the right to know, but then again if you are friends it might totally ruin your friendship.
That's also why you shouldn't do that.......just my opinion though..
Addendum:From observation, it is probably in your best interest to end it and run. IF she find outs...well, you're a woman, consider what you might do if you were her.
Yes, she deserves to know the truth about her boyfriend. This epecially applies if you're friends with his atual girlfriend. The longer you wait, the more deadly the situation becomes. She may never trust you or her boyfriend again. =Answer= Cheating is cheap and a cowardly act! If you both found you were falling in love then he should have had the guts to confront his girlfriend and break it off. I can't believe some people think cheating is A-OK. If in doubt put yourself in the other person's shoes. Both of you are chickens and you should be ashamed of yourselves for hurting his girlfriend. Believe me, she'll be coming out the winner. The two of you deserve each other and once one cheats such as he did you will come to a point in the relationship where you won't trust him! Stay out of it! Already you have given me the impression this guy has a yellow streak up his back and if anyone should be telling his girlfriend it should be him!
yes but always have proof because of you don't she wont believe you
Your girlfriend's cheating
tell him
Yes you should tell her that he is cheating. Because later, it will hurt her if not told.
You can tell for sure that your girlfriend is cheating, by catching her on the act with her lover.
stalk her
No, she will find out eventually. IF you do tell, she might take it negatively and this might ruin your friendship.
Yes, you should tell her that your having feelings for guys, she might be releaved and understand, its better than her catching you in the act
You probably can not tell if she is cheating on you, but you can ask her and look closely at her reaction. Talking to other guys is probably innocent and nothing to get upset about.
One way to try to tell if your girlfriend is cheating is if she's refusing to spend time with you. If she has a new boyfriend she may want to spend less time with you.
That really is a grey area. Of course it always best to tell someone when such behaviour is taking place but just be sure you have her best interests at heart.
What I would do is tell him that she is cheating and give him some good proof and if he dosent want to believe you then that's his choice. Hey! You warned him!
You should tell her that it upsets you and if she does not understand then she is not a real girlfriend and if she does not stop than you should break up with her there are a lot more girls in this world you can find