Should your first kiss be on the lips?

Answer 1

== == Where you place your first kiss varies between partners and circumstances. With people who are a little experienced, mostly you will find that you will have been in a very close intimate situation for a while, already touching hands, maybe stroking a bit, and your eyes meet, and there is a sudden very intense electric pulling together moment between you. And you both know suddenly that kissing is the right thing to do, and so you kiss. It should be a quite small kiss on the lips at first, but it will typically rapidly develop into something much more intense.

The first kiss ever in your life is a different thing. You will probably feel the electric pulling thing for a while and not know quite what to do with it. What is safe to do iis to work gradually towards a kiss on the lips, but to start with other kisses.

Start with a close embrace, a hug, hold your cheeks together and try a little kiss on the neck. Then a little kiss on the cheek and if that is not resisted try for a little kiss on the lips. And stay with 'dry' kissing until both of you are ready for more sensual open mouther kissing. (See 'How do you French Kiss')

When kissing be very sensual - imagine that you are sampling, sucking, and consuming the most aromatic, flavorful, and succulent fruit that you have ever had the pleasure to enjoy, and savor every drop like it is going to be the last one you will ever taste for the rest of your life.

But while enhjoying - don't stop listening. At all times feel for and be sensitive to resistance. Resistance doesn't necessarily mean stop. Usually it just means "Slow down, I'm not ready". So slow down. Don't rush it. Wait! You and your partner are probably full of all sorts of strong and exciting (and frightening) desires and feelings. Give both of you a chance to deal with it slowly, safely. And bear in mind that the best lovers never rush anything - they enjoy and heighten every sensation.

Don't kiss any partner who has not already indicated that they want to be kissed. Asking for a kiss doesn't mean using words, but watch for your partner going silent, looking closely into your eyes and turning their face and mouth towards yours and lifting their chin.

Signs of not wanting to be kissed are strong resistance, the word "No!" and turning away from you. Remember that No means No. Respect the "No" and you may still have a chance of eventually getting a "Yes". Pretend that you are sampling, sucking, and consuming the most aromatic, flavorful, and succulent fruit that you have ever had the pleasure to enjoy, and then savor every last drop like it is going to be the last one you will ever taste for the rest of your life. If she feels the same way, you can then go to that special place called 'make-out heaven.' Enjoy.