Ur girlfriend has been sexually abused by 2 men and u found out that one of the men was the guy who lives with her aunt She has been to therapy but no one else knows about the 2nd man what shld u do?
Be there for her. This might be very hard for you to understand at first, but if she trusted you enough to tell you, than this should be something that will make your relationship stronger in the end, not tear it part. Some guys dont know how to take this information, because it is a big deal, and they'll distance themselves. All she needs is someone who understnds. If you love her, try to be this man.
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If one knows that they have been mentally abusive in all their relationships and wants to find support groups where does one look?
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If your husband is a somatic narcissist and has been unfaithful with many women and men how does this relate to his sexual abuse as a child?
Answer . A person who has been sexually abused as a child doesn't even realize the damage has already occured mentally. Either the child will keep this abuse a secret or if the family should find out it is kept secret. Either way the child usually never wins and is never sent for psychological tr…eatment in their younger years.. Sexually abused people live as if there is a hollow in the pit of their very soul and sometimes it takes years to surface. They never really get over it, but with psychological counselling they can certainly live normal lives.. Sexually abused people are also very guarded (to protect themselves) and thus, they may come off as being narcissistic, but they really aren't. They seldom mean to hurt others, but because of their sexual abuse they usually can't find a happy medium with a sexual partner. Trust is a big issue here.. Marcy. When you know better, you do better. If he's dealing with his past, there is no reason to continue the bad behavior in the present or the future. Tell him to keep it in his pants or dump him. It's just an excuse, not a reason if he keeps on cheating on you. ( Full Answer )
Why do women who were sexually abused by their fathers not understand about commitment and when they get a man that is caring why do they still have sex with other men?
Answer . \nMy personal thoughts would be because the abused woman in question associates that bad behavior with masculinity or a "fatherly" figure. Especially if the abuse was going on during the sensitive developmental stages of her youth. She may possibly be desensitised to sex in the persona…l and intimate way the majority of women see it. Because of her hardship she may devalue sex or devalue herself, possibly both. I know that some abused women subconsciously want to be treated aggresively or badly. Unfortunately, issues such as these are rarely sorted out unless the victim is ready and/or willing to accept help. Then again, perhaps this particular person is resolved with their past and a problem might lie in your specific relationship with her. Some women get a sense of feeling smothered or boredom if a man persues them too obsessively/aggressively. The best advice I could give is for as much communication between yourselves as possible. Remember to remain calm but not soft. Stand your ground and be firm with communicating your feelings and/or opinions, while not seeming angry or impatient. ( Full Answer )
Is it normal for someone who has been abused to be obsessively reading books on abusive men or looking at abuse websites trying to find that one thing that will put the abuser in his place?
Answer . It might be necessary to get the person in for therapy. If nothing else, the therapist might be able to get the abused person to leave the abusive relationship and be a little less obsessive.
How do you pick between 2 men you love when your husband is deployed but you have met someone else in the military and your husband knows about him but the other guy doesn't know you're married?
Answer . When someone you love is deployed I can understand how lonely it gets, but it's no reason to use this as an excuse to find someone else. Your husband needs your support more than ever and remember, he's lonely and scared too! This is truly a test to see just how much you mean to each …other. No one said marriage or even a relationship was a bowl of cherries. This is a test to see who has the "staying power" and how much you really love each other. Can you do it girl? \n. \nYou need to give your head a shake! Start writing your husband or, if possible, see if you can phone him. Try! Even though your husband knows about the other guy it must be hell for him because he's stuck where he is and can't do anything about it. \n. \nIf you leave your husband for this other guy and your husband comes back you could well realize you've truly made a big mistake. Absence should make the heart grow fonder and not make you drift apart. Hey, here's an idea ... go out with girlfriends! Sorry, but it's time you grew up!\n. \nI suggest you go onto google.com \n. \nType in: Love letters from the Vietnam War\n. \nAlso later Type in: Love letters from the WWII.\n. \nPerhaps this will set your mind straight. If you don't start to sit up and fly right you could be making the worst mistake of your life and you'll be the one that will pay dearly for it. \n. \nLoneliness is a difficult thing, but one can bury themselves in work, friends, hobbies, or volunteer work. There is no need to be in the situation you are in.\n. \nRemember, you are responsible for your own actions and you will have to live with them.\n. \nGood luck\nMarcy\n. \n Answer \n. \nYou should be ashamed of yourself! Your husband is risking his life to defend our country and YOUR freedom, and you have the audacity to cheat on him. You don't deserve your husband!! ( Full Answer )
Well, because that's an uncomfortable precursor to touch in that area it will remind the individual of the experience. Most people men and women getting a rectal exam are tense and on guard because of the privacy of the issue. It is not uncommon to have stimulation because of the sensitivity in the …area. Women who go to the GYN say they get aroused by the touch. Nothing demented or strange about it just natural feelings. Unfortunately, for any one abused sexually who had the innocence of healthy touch taken away from them by a tainted mind, they often feel dirty or bad about touch in any sexual area. Go to the local library for self help books to view in the privacy of your home or if you feel comfortable enough you can talk to a professional about your feelings or seek out meetings in or around your locale for support. I wish there was a way to make the negative feelings go away but unfortunately they never will, they only can be dealt with in a different manner. I actually wish there was a brain function that would kick in to an abusers head before the abuse actually happens to redirect the feelings but that is in my world of wishes. It breaks my heart whenever I hear of this vileness occurring and I hope any abused person can live the rest of their life with healthy love and happiness for that is what we all deserve. Good luck and Bless all ( Full Answer )
Really? Are you KIDDING? There's simply no excuse for any woman getting pregnant if she doesn't want to be. Pick any of the numerous pills. Don't like pills? There's a shot that lasts 3 months. There are IUDs. Any of the above could be had without him ever knowing. Though much l…ess effective, there are diaghrams, creams, condoms... Make a "mistake" and worried? There's the "morning after" pill. The fact is that women have been "trapping" men with pregnancies for thousands of years, and THEY are the ones seeking "control." Surely you've seen enough of our system to know that it works -- all too well -- but it will result in misery for all concerned -- ESPECIALLY the child. Don't even think about it. Sounds to me like you'd be best off with NO boyfriend... ( Full Answer )
How does one come to know that the guy she has been chatting with is not feeling bugged or bothered by her?
Answer . You will know if he ignores you, is short with you or does not chat as often.
Most certainly. Men don't always leave because there is someone else although I suppose it's easier to believe that then believing they just don't want to be with us.
What do u do if u like this guy and he is in one of yourclasses and heknows ur nameand you know his and ureally like him but u think he knowsthat ulike him and u have never talked to him and you r shy?
Start with saying hello to him. Just say it in passing. Then if you keep doing this everyday you will get the confidence to talk to him properly.
This sounds like sour grapes about people who have been caught in abusive relationships--like it is their choice. Of course, no one specifically seeks out someone who is abusive. Actually, so many of the abusive mates are very charming and attractive (make you laugh, have fun, offer nice courtesi…es) in the beginning, which is so appealing. They just can't keep the facade when things get real, and there is commitment by the other person, so there is less incentive to mind their manners. Looking back, I can see several "what was That?" instances in my relationship. And that is the issue--we all go back to familiar behaviors unless we have had time out to have the insight to see ourselves as we are and to view our choices with more logic than emotion. A veteran of an abusive relationship needs to take things slow, observe the red flags (ie. did the person's ex leave them suddenly and without explanation? Are they quick to anger? Do they blame you for things you have no control over? etc.), and spend time with the other person in several different circumstances. If you can delay having sex with the new person and mixing those endorphins into the decision making, you will be better off. A good resource is the book by Patricia Evans--The Verbally Abusive Relationship. ( Full Answer )
Help is available for all victims of Child Abuse. For more information on Male victims of child abuse see above related link.
What scripture or verse has when 2 men were praying and one of the men was talking bad about the other man and God answered the other man's prayer?
I think you are referring to the parable of the Pharisee and the tax collector. It is found in Luke's gospel:. Lk 18:9-14 He also told this parable to some who trusted in themselves that they were righteous and despised others: 10 "Two men went up into the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the …other a tax collector. 11 The Pharisee stood and prayed thus to himself, 'God, I thank thee that I am not like other men, extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even like this tax collector. 12 I fast twice a week, I give tithes of all that I get.' 13 But the tax collector, standing far off, would not even lift up his eyes to heaven, but beat his breast, saying, 'God, be merciful to me a sinner!' 14 I tell you, this man went down to his house justified rather than the other; for every one who exalts himself will be humbled, but he who humbles himself will be exalted.". ( Full Answer )
You are 14 nd the skin on ur labia peels everyday. Have been sexually active but it happened before you had intercourse you r afraid of telling a doctor or parent cos u dont wnt them 2 know u had sex?
See a doctor. You could have some type of skin infection.. Yupp..see a doctor asap. tell them yo situation and you could easily tell yo doc you dont want ur mom or dad knowin about this until you ready to tell them..
What do you say to a girl who wants you to ask her to homecomming but you know that if you do she'll break up with her bf your friend and theyv been going out for 2 years What do u tel her and ur frnd?
friends are before girls and if you want to be a good firend and not lose that friend than sont ask her and find someone else
the most you could probably do is keep trying, there are probably other ways to change peoples mind. but sometimes people just don't like the personality, or the way you look, but don't let that get you down. keep trying, and end when you think that's all there is.
What if u like a boy a lot u might even love him but u guys have been friends 4 as long as 2nd grade what do u do 2 tell him that u want 2 further ur friendship but u dont want 2 look stupid doing it.?
\n. \nWow, that's deep. I found myself in the exact same position last year when i was in 7th grade. All you can do is say what you want to say. That's all you can do. Just come out and say it.\n. \n. \nA: we guys dont really mind depends on who he is im 12 year old just remember if you breakup y…all might not be friends it happen to me never saw her again only cause she moved ( Full Answer )
Men with only one testical are just as fucntional sexually as other men. The major difference is the appearance - although a prostetic peice can be inserted for looks - and the ability to produce sperm. Men with only one testical have a greatly reduced sperm count and may find it difficult to have a… child naturally. You may be required to go through invetro procedures to have a child. ( Full Answer )
Homosexual men show their attraction to men in the same way that heterosexual women show their attraction to women. If they are young and/or inexperienced, they may become flustered and uncomfortable when talking to a male they find attractive. The more obvious signs are if they flirt with other men…, spend time staring at other men's erogenous zones, or are caught masturbating to male pornography. ( Full Answer )
It means that his best defense for the shame he feels is to make you seem like the only one who turns him on THAT much....when, in fact, every/any gal in his past relationships is no strangerrr to his "one minute manhood".
Ask her? That's pretty much the only way to get an answer. The only other thing I could suggest would be to ask her friends or just snoop any of her "friend network" sites and see who she talked to in the past. ^DISCLAIMER: I don't recommend the latter of the two options because they you can… loose her trust and/or she will think youre crazy... you get the picture. Just be honest. P.S. Also ask yourself the questions.... DO YOU REALLY WANT TO KNOW....and second...How many is too many? You can just ask her to tell you if its more than a certain number you select...if that's just to much than you can make a decision on what you want to do... GL!!! -Cuzzinz ( Full Answer )
What do you do if you are a 12 yr old girl ur bf wants to break up w someone u like one of ur friends that friend likes someone else u have never gone out and ur bf now likes the person u like?
Sorry about the grammar, there wasn't enough room. . "What do you do if you are a 12 year old girl, your best friend wants to break up with someone, you like one of your friends, that friend likes someone else, you have never gone out with anyone, and your best friend now likes the person you like… which is also her friend?" also, I don't really want to go out with him, it's just that I don't want her to go out with him, and I don't want to hurt my friend's feelings. And, she still wants to be friends with the person she wants to break up with. (it's a group) The person she is trying to break up with is the person who I like's (and my) friend. Help! ( Full Answer )
How can a woman know whether or not men view her as 'hookup material' or 'relationship material' and What makes the guy decide whether or not a woman is one or the other?
It's all a respect thing. There are ways to flirt and attract without coming off as easy. First of all, be yourself and have your opinions. If you are the type to agree with someone strictly to fabricate a common bond they will see through it soon enough and you will be perceived as a person who tri…es too hard, doesn't know themself or is generally untrustworthy. Some times, however, a man is looking specifically for a "hook up" and will play the agreeable game with women. If you can spot this, you can avoid it. Usually if someone agrees with every little thing you say they are trying to gain a certain level of trust (without actually earning it), and have an ulterior motive.. At the same time, being "relationship material" does not mean going around telling men about your desire for marriage and babies, as this is a lot to take at first. Being independent, confident and self reliant are the best ways of showing your potential. A woman who doesn't need a man to succeed is often the most sought-after, they are seen as having less "baggage". That and the fact that you have your own life shows a man that you will not overtake his if in a relationship. Spending time apart and having outside hobbies and interests is just as important as maintaining a romantic relationship.. I hope that any of this made sense, and somewhat answered your question! ( Full Answer )
Most girls who are sexually abused are drawn to men because they are afraid of what other girls will think and also how they will judge them and blame them and most men will not... also girls like to watch men make mistakes and by beign around them it is easier ti see them.
She may tell you herself , once you are very friendly with her. If she has already told you, and you are not sure if you believe her, give her the benefit of the doubt and encourage her to confide in a school counselor, nurse, or other person of authority.
Contrary to common legend, most people who have actually been abused have memories of it. The "repressed memory" idea has largely been discredited as false "memories" brought about by poorly-thought out questioning. If you have concerns about vague memories when you were a child, etc., be sure to… find a therapist who specializes in childhood trauma to help you explore them. People have gone to prison over the false memory issue, so you want to be sure that your recollections are accurate, for your own sake and the sake of the other party as well. ( Full Answer )
We cannot speak for all abusive men, but we assume that most of them know that they are abusers. Abusive men tend to come from abusive homes, and the behavior may seem normal to them. Others may feel that such behavior is their right. Most of them know the law, but when rage strikes, the law often d…oesn't mean much. ( Full Answer )
Shld u or shld u not forgive ur fiance who was disrespectful to u bc you didn't want to show urself on d webcam nude when he apologizes eg. he said he will go on d internet n look at big buddies?
You should forgive and forget what your fiance said because it's obvious that he misses and loves you. He apologized since he knew he was very wrong for hurting you and because he was trying to use a manipulative tatic to try to persuade you into revealing your nudity. You should also forgive him if… you still love him but do not let him off easily: in other words play hard to get and he will never disrespect you ever again!! ( Full Answer )
Y would a guy get defensive if you make a comment using a guys name that likes u 2 another guy uve been messing with that likes u n then he tells u y did you use him as an example n not someone else?
It's most likely because he's afraid that your going to ditch him if you start dating either that or he likes you and wants to go out with you. :)
If ur not happy in ur relationship n you've been ignorant n a guy that likes u ask y ur acting like that n u tell him when this is ur bf's friend n he likes u then he says he dont want 2 know..y not?
He probably doesn't want to know because he has feelings for you, And the thought of someone else just liking you probably hurts him.
If you tell a guy ur not going 2 text him anymore n he didnt believe you n it has been a week since u text him n he hasn't texted u since is he not interested in u anymore or waiting 4 u to text him?
Sounds like hes playing hard to get or he's stubborn waiting for you to text first...
If u know ur the 1st and only mistress in a married mans life and he said u are going to be the last one to because its to much then how would that married man feel about his mistress if he said that?
Yes, in that married man just feel about his mistress. I guess that feeling his mistress' simply reality
How do i locate a man that sexually abused me when i was younger if i never told any one about the abuse?
talk to somebody does not need family or friends but maybe people in the same cases. I found the rapist of my girlfriend because she knew his name... I found him on Facebook and google. Now litle by litle we I'm getting more and more information about this guy at a point where i found another g…irl who go raped by him too. the world is small for idiots like them try. you may succeed I hope you do rapist deserve punishment one way or the other. ( Full Answer )
Many celebrities have been sexually abused. A partial list... Oprah Winfrey Monique Terri Hatcher Tyler Perry Queen Latifah Tatum O'Neal McKenzie Phillips Fantasia Barrino Axl Rose Drew Carey Tyler Perry
Excuse me to the person who first answered this question, but yes, Jesus did in fact say that to the blind men. From what I have heard and come to understand, the reason (or at least one of the reasons) that Jesus told the healed men to "see that no one knows about this" (Matthew 9:30) was because H…e did not want to cause masses of people to throng (assemble) to Him and force Him to be their King (since the people were eagerly awaiting their Messiah/Savior). Jesus was indeed the people's Savior, but he did not want to be presented as the King that the people expected -- it's the reason he chose to be crucified on the Cross. ( Full Answer )
Many do and do it for the power trip. Some however, do not..it is a way of life.
If u live with ur ex and the guy ur talking 2 knows it n 1 night u 2 went out n had sex then afterwards the guy says what would ur ex think if he knew u were with me y would he ask that?
He wants to see you again, but wounders if your ex still has feelings for you. He doesn't want you to have a bad relationship with him if your living with him
If you were hanging out with this guy uve been talking to and he said to u b4 u left now got to go home to ur ex which u live with would he be mad if he knew u were with me y would he ask that?
this question was hard to understand, heres what i picked up on... * your current boy friend asked you "would your Ex be mad if he knew we were going out?" * He'd probably ask you that because hes worried that it might not be completely over between you and your Ex cause your still living with hi…m. Try sitting down your current boyfriend and telling him how much he means to you that that it is completely over between you and your Ex and that he has absolutly nothing to be worried about. But only tell him that if there really isn't anything going oon between you and your Ex... hope this helps, and good luck! ( Full Answer )
If a guy told u ur fun to b around n ur beautiful but u dont talk 2 him 2 much u sent him an email told him u like him n wanted 2 know how he feels you know he read it but u never got anything back y?
cz he is 2 busy or has other thing on his mind at tht moment
If you feel like ur bothering a guy when he told u ur not so u sent him a email telling him ur not texting him no more because it seems he dont want 2 talk 2 you know he read it but no response back y?
it sounds like hes playin games, he might hav a really good explanation but i doubt it, or he may not have the heart to tell u. if i was u i wouldn't even text him sayin ur not txtin him agen, if he really likes u then he will txt or email u, if u havnt heard nothin in a couple of weeks then u no ho…w he really felt. thing is you never chase a guy as now hel feel you were being needy and that makes guys run a mile, chill out and don't scare them away ( Full Answer )
Why would a guy ask u if ur on the pill after he cums in u waits for ur answer then says well I've been burned for years?
Because he has had a vasectomy (meaning he should no longer be able to produce sperm) If he's still that concerned with pregnancy, he should have asked you before, not after. -Abaddon
What if u find out the reason the guy u like hasn't asked u out is because hes worried u are going to cheat on him even though he knows ur not that kind of person. -hes been cheated on twice recently?
He's been cheated on twice? Doesnt that give you a clue? Think about it, if you dated three guys. One of them cheats on you with your BEST friend, the second one cheats on you with someone else, and the third one breaks up with you (he may not have had three but it helps with the explanation). Right… now in time, you are feeling betrayed. You trusted three people and two of them let you down. They CHEATED on you. When someone cheats, you feel betrayed, you feel like you just arent good enough. Would you trust another person again? No, you are worried that they might cheat on you. ITs all an issue of trust. ( Full Answer )
What makes a man abusive is that they hurt you on purpose. Most reasons they do this in the first place is because they are small tempered and if you anger them you won't be happy. As for the women seeking i don't think that has ever happened. In most cases you can't tell if a man is abusive by …looking at him or even talking to him. Also no one in there right mind would want to ask for that kind of abuse so ya. I hope that helped! =) ( Full Answer )
Many times, women don't "seek out" abusive men necessarily, but women are often attracted to "bad" boys, and that is just the way it is, no reason for it. And of course those bad boys could end of being highly abusive. Men are abusive when they control everything in a their parter's life. There is p…hysical abuse, and emotional abuse, and many other types. If you ever feel threatened or unsafe, that could be a sign of abuse and you have to get out of that relationship immediately before it becomes something you'll regret. Your "man" WILL ask for you back, but you just have to stay strong and listen to your heart! ( Full Answer )
Most men do not. These men are trying to show you their manliness by pretending to be some sort of Sexual Tyrannosaurus.
Wat dos it mean wen u have been having constant stares in the eyes with a guy in ur class and one time wen u guys were standing u see him looking at u with a smile hands in his pocket tilting his body?
i had the same thing happen to to me we were friends for two years and that was the way he acted around me all the time and in the second year he came up to me and said i was beautiful and that he liked me the best way to find out if he likes you is to ask him yourself
Wat dos it mean wen ur friend gos 2 da guy u hav been havin constant stares with in class but never talked 2 and says she wants 2 talk 2 u and he has a shocked face and says y wud she wanna talk to me?
I think it means he can't believe you like him and it probably means he is shocked you like him because he probably likes you back.
A common misconception about homosexuality is that it is possible for a heterosexual person to be 'made' homosexual' by certain events. Recent research has shown that the physiology of the brain of a homosexual male is more similar to a heterosexual woman than to a hetero man. The same is true of ho…mosexual women and heterosexual men. With people of different sexual-orientations possessing physically different brains, it is highly unlikely that any event, even an emotionally traumatic one like sexual abuse, could completely change the brain structure of an individual leading to them becoming homosexual. It is a well known fact though that sexual and other forms of abuse can have huge impacts on behavior. ( Full Answer )
(Mustn't tell horrible jokes from high school, mustn't tell horrible jokes from high school...) If she tells him. There's no sure-fire way for a guy to know a girl has been sexually active ... for example, the hymen may be broken, absent, or unnoticeable for reasons unrelated to sexual activity.
Why would man bring his best friend's wife to his house at 2 am answer the door with his shirt unbuttoned and tell his girlfriend no one else is there?
No one knows the definitive answer to your question. You need to analyze the situation. He is being dishonest with his girlfriend, probably being unfaithful with his best friend's wife and his girlfriend should accept the reality of the situation and move on. No one knows the definitive answer to y…our question. You need to analyze the situation. He is being dishonest with his girlfriend, probably being unfaithful with his best friend's wife and his girlfriend should accept the reality of the situation and move on. No one knows the definitive answer to your question. You need to analyze the situation. He is being dishonest with his girlfriend, probably being unfaithful with his best friend's wife and his girlfriend should accept the reality of the situation and move on. No one knows the definitive answer to your question. You need to analyze the situation. He is being dishonest with his girlfriend, probably being unfaithful with his best friend's wife and his girlfriend should accept the reality of the situation and move on. ( Full Answer )