1) a really bad relationship with his mother.
2) you feel that he's hiding something. trust me on this one, he is!!
3) he is vain
4)he is unpredictable, mood wise
5) you feel like you're walking on eggshells
6) you feel un-treasured and confused
OH YEAH! HE IS! THANK YOU, YOU ARE SO RIGHT ON...KNOW HIM?
With me there were certain stages to the process of discovery. I always had a niggling feeling that something was not right. His behaviour did not match the protestations of love he gave me. It was only when I managed to separate the illusions he presented with the facts that everything fell into place. I spent 25 years with this man and the divorce was horrible. Narcissists come in all forms so it is difficult to recognise specific signs. Just trust your gut instincts.
Beat you with a shoe and tie you to a bed.
Until you tell him - none.
Your husband can show various signs when he is cheating. He might be mentioning his ex in various matters.
coz he'll do her up the bum
It isn't pretty
You could talk to a psychologist and tell them the signs of Aspergers that your husband is showing. That way if your husband does have Aspergers he can get medicine for his symptoms, but not all people with Aspergers need medicine
Emotions and express shows that your husband love you.
Avoiding her in public and avoiding her husband in private.
He's playing you like a fine fiddle. Narcissistic people are ego-maniacs, controllers and can be verbally abusive (even physically abusive at times.) They love to feel in control so "game playing" is high on their list and that's exactly what this guy is doing to you. A person that loves you does not treat you in this manner. Tell him to get lost! Get on your own two feet and become independent and think of the signs of this narcissistic ex-boyfriend and learn from your mistakes. There is never a happy ending in a narcissistic relationship.
You'll need to tell your husband first.
blood or he is never home
The usual response of a narcissistic husband is to not want his wife to leave - because he can't imagine the thought or image in his head of any other guy being intimate with her, in any way. It is a big problem, on his part. Your task is to ask the quesiton, "Am I better off with him or without him?". The answer to this question should drive your actions (rather than any guilt feelings you may have about what your husband is left to deal with).