These are your children, too. They know you as well as anyone, and believe me, they will make their own decisions regardless of what he says. So, my advice is to maintain the best relationships you can with them and don't allow the drama of him or his comments to come between you. Lean heavily on the saying, "never complain, never explain." Find a place where you can enjoy one another and they will figure it out without your saying a word. If they don't, then you have to find your joy in your present life and family of the heart.
AnswerYour adult children should "catch a few more brain cells" and stay out of it! No one knows what goes on behind the closed doors of others and they have no right to take sides. I do believe they mean no harm and feel badly for both of you, but still, they are adults and they should stay out of it!There are two things you can do here:
It's important you nip this in the bud now, get it out in the open by either method I suggested above and move on.
A bit more:
The first answers have some excellent advice, but for a bit more: If you try to explain or defend yourself by putting down your ex husband, they will then spend their time and thoughts defending him. And as long as they are defending him, they won't be able to see him for how he really is. This doesn't mean you can't speak up at times, it just means don't be the one to bring it up yourself. But when your children do bring it up, you can calmly, but firmly tell them your side of it, but without outright calling your ex a liar.Also, if they criticize your actions (whether perceived or real actions) to you, you have every right to tell them what your truth is. But you also have the right to tell them it's between their father and you if you don't feel you owe them an explanation, or if you just don't feel like talking about it.
Just let them know you will always be their mother and will always be there for them, and eventually you ex just may screw up and show his real side to them. You may even have a few examples of when he's done them wrong to remind them of. Of course, I wouldn't recommend reminding them of it in a vengeful way, but in a way they can compare with present circumstances. But since they are adults, eventually they should see the truth. But if they don't, all you can do is try to have the best relationship with them you can in spite of your ex.
And if your best isn't good enough for them, then all you can do is wait for them to see their father for who he really is. And when they do, it will be painful for them, so don't say "I told you so". Just be there for them to lean on.
I believe it is. Im doing it. Have to think of the children. If you dont want them to be the same way then you have to remove them from the relationship all together. You have to think about your children. They are very fragile and it can hurt them in the long run if you dont do something.
Stepford Children I believe
Answer: Brainwashing is probably legal. Have you ever heard of anyone or group being charged with brainwashing? I've only heard of one example of brainwashing being a crime. It was in the news a few years ago, that the CIA was involved in some experiments in the 1950's with a Montreal psychiatrist, whose name, I think, was Dr. Allen or Ewan (or similar name) Cameron. In about the year 2,000 a court decided that these experiments were brainwashing and awarded the few surviving patients, some compensation. I think some religious cultists such as Charles Manson, and Rev. Jim Jones of the Peoples Temple cult, were reported as brainwashing their followers. I don't know how common brainwashing is. I believe I've been brainwashed by a large gang in Canada, since about 1980, and continuing to a lesser extent today, a sort of maintenance dose, to scare me out of circulation with the general public. I believe I'm a sort of unofficial political prisoner! Since I believe corrupt police are involved, I'd say, yes, brainwashing is legal.
I don't think that anyone becomes one they just are that way from the beginning and there are celebrities who are narcissistic - lots of them I do believe. They are no different from anyone else.
Make the grandchild watch TV and bake them cookies. It makes them believe they've accomplished their goal.
I believe you have to call your service provider and give them the number and they can block it or I've heard you can do it online. (depending on your provider)
Mormons educate their children in their religion just the same as Catholics, Muslims and virtually any religion in the world. The underlying practice of all these religions is to get children to believe. That is accomplished by early education in the ways of the particular church. The correct generic term may be indoctrinate.
Nah--they'll figure it out. Understand that you are espousing an opinion, not asking a question, and that others may feel differently. ------------------ Another answer: Many people do think that religion (of any kind) brainwashes children. Religious people argue that teaching your children your religion is not brainwashing, and that non-religious children are equally brainwashed to believe in atheist or agnostic ideas. Passing on your religious beliefs to your children (whether you are religious or are not religious) has not proved to be very harmful, as it has been done since the beginning of time and society is still going strong. Everyone has the right to choose what to teach their children, and we should only be concerned if it appears to make it difficult for their children to function in society or if it makes their children become violent and dangerous. While a few who have left Mormonism may say the church destroyed their life, the vast majority who have left Mormonism will say that they appreciated their upbringing and still hang on to some of the values and ideals they were taught as children in the Mormon church.
Orthodox Jews believe their way is the only "proper" way to practice Judaism. In most cases, it's considered brainwashing.
Yes, both the Puritans and the Quakers believed in educating their children. They emphasized the importance of literacy in order to read religious texts and also to understand and interpret scripture for themselves. Education was seen as essential for spiritual growth and for preparing individuals to contribute to their communities.
I believe there was no children of these two.
I believe he has 4 children