What do you do if you love a married man and he loves you too but he doesn't know what to do and he has children and is double your age?

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He has to leave his wife for starters. If he is willing to make the sacrifice of leaving his children for you he is telling you something there. He does not know what to do as he is torn between two things that he most likely loves very much and does not want to lose either. You need to develop strong communication skills with him. If that much cant be done to start, you need to address your problems with him and then see what is said and more importantly done. If you get more of the same you need to do some real soul searching as the common nonsense ie "MOVE ON" will just leave you in a huge emotional mess. Let your heart guide your head.

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Be aware that your relationship has the potential to damage his wife's and children's lives. Is he aware of that? Does he care? If not, there may come a time in your relationship when he stops caring about your feelings, too. The old saying "Whatever he'll do with you, he'll do to you," is true more often than not.

If he is concerned about his family and leaves them for you, the guilt and emotional turmoil could tear your relationship apart. If you marry, the odds of your marriage ending in divorce are much higher than average.

You are better off dating a single man closer to your own age, especially if you want children of your own someday.