What do you do if you love someone but he does not care about you in the same way?
Well, ask him how he really feels about you. If you know for
sure he doesn't love you. then you need to move on. Because you
can't make someone love you. You can't control love!
The first thing you do is think about what it actually is that you
are describing as love. Love takes time to grow and often young
people (and some not so young) believe that an attraction to a
personality or a physical attraction to someone (often a
combination of both) equals love. It does not. It is really just
attraction, and if you dwell on it long enough, can feel like
you're 'in love'. What that is really, is the fertile ground that
may be a good place to plant seeds that could possibly grow to be
love. Once you become aware of feeling like this about someone, it
is your opportunity to consider if this is a good place for you to
plant those seeds. Given a little time, you will find that more
often, it wasn't the best choice to plant. You will be able to save
yourself a lot of emotional energy and enjoy relationships for what
they are instead of what you think they are or wish they were.
Second, this is a time in your life that you learn that you
can't make someone else feel what you want them to feel. When
confronted with a situation where you find yourself wanting to
change someones feelings, remember that they feel what they feel
for reasons that have nothing to do with you. What you can change
is how you feel about what they feel. In other words, view the
situation from a different perspective, even possibly see why or
how they came to feel the way they do. This can really be helpful
in maintaining a good attitude instead of finding a reason to
becoming depressed or judging another person.