What do you do when the one you are madly in love with is a compulsive liar?

Answer 1

reverse psaychology Your fiance needs some psychological counseling. People that are compulsive liars do so because they have no self-confidence and feel a need to be accepted by ALL their peers. They don't always realize that not everyone is going to like them (happens to us all) and they dramatize situations to become self-important. They can lie about the silliest things, but one day they will lie about something very serious and can cause a lot of heartache. If your mate isn't willing to seek counseling for this problem then I would break-off the engagement until they either comply or they continue to move on. Marriage should be for a life-time and this isn't a good start with the problems you have.

Answer 2

It is of course just my opinion, but this is not a relationship that is healthy to be a part of. If you are just falling in love, cut your losses and find someone else. Pathological lying is deep-seeded and how can you ever trust them?? Trust is 90% or more of a relationship. Good luck to you. I am on this site for the first time and I am the one who posted this question earlier. Thanks for the advice. I wanted to clarify that I have been with this guy since he was 16 and I was eighteen. That was 10 years ago. We were friends in the beginning and saw each other with other people. We dated a touch, then broke up, then dated etc. We eventually dated consecutively for 5 years. I know he loves me more than he could any other girl he knows. It's just that he is a liar and I catch him, he'll admit it and say a bunch of excuses as to why he lied. Sometimes he won't admit it, even when faced with proof. I am so invested in this relationship that I don't just want to never talk to him again (which is what I probably should do), I want him to get better but it seems that no matter how many times I forgive him, he'll eventually go back to his pattern. I do love him, and he's a good-hearted guy. I really don't think he can help himself-he really believes some of the lies he tells. I do believe that he loves me as much as is possible for him to love someone. I'm screwed up to even think about putting up with this anymore.

Answer 3

You should talk to him/her, let them know that it is bothering you. Tell them that it is hard for you to trust them, and if they really love you, they will stop lieing.