What do you do when you cannot give your heart to your husband fully because you have an ex you still love too?

Answer 1

I'm In the same situation sweetie. And as misrable as it can be, all you can really do is just follow your heart. Regardless of what I or anyone else instructs you to do. You know what you need to do. Only you know the in's and out's of your past and present relationship and ony you know what you want. Again follow your heart and most importantly....Pray! And remember that for whatever reason, everything happens for a reason.

Good Luck!

You need to get over you ex. You are no longer with him. You need to work on fully loving your husband, he is what's important. It's OK to still have some feelings for an ex, but to still love them and have that taking away from your marriage isn't healthy. If you don't think you can do it by yourself, you may need to get some counseling. Possibly couples counseling along with you by yourself.

AnswerIf that's the case, why did you decide to marry your husband. Why do something like that to yourself too??

If you were never over your ex, then you shouldn't have really married your husband. If he knew about this, how would you think his reaction would be?

Actually, ask yourself the same question and say it was your husband that had this question you were asking... How would you react or answer the question?

AnswerMy advise to you. I strongly believe that one of the way out is to get back to your ex, invite him out and have a serious talk about how you feel, if there is any chance for both of you to make up( of course if his not involved in a relationship). Ask him to be as honest as possible as it will help you to set you free. Tell him its about time for you to face the truth and move on but there is a bridge to cross and you have to be sure there is no more reason to turn back.

If he is an a relationship try to find out if his ready to give it up for you. NB: Forget it if he has a family. Be realistic and move on.

Good luck!

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I absolutely disagree with contacting your ex.

Your ex should never know how you feel. By discussing this with him you will be hurting and humilating your husband behind his back, DO NOT DO THAT TO HIM. All talking to your ex will do is give a boost to his ego, give him one up man ship over your husband and the abilty to walk into your lives and destroy your marriage any time he likes.

Think of it this way, your ex probably knew you were getting married and he did NOTHING. He made the decision by doing nothing to let another man have you because he didnt love you enough. Your husband however, stood by your side looked into your eyes and declared his love for you. Your ex couldn't even be bothered to get off his a** to stop that from happening... That should tell you of the depth of HIS feelings towards YOU. He can live without you in his life, HE ALREADY DOES. Your husband however does not, does not want to and does not deserve this. Move on honey, the truth is out there.

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please if you cannot forget your ex don't go out to destroy somebody elses life. after having many affairs with unmarried and married women n not wanting to marry until recently,i have come to crossroad where theres a girl whom i m thinking of marrying,the thought of her having somebody else in her heart or mind instead of me kills me,its ssmes like i ll die if that happens. so pls if you think you wont love ur spouse with ur soul spirit n body at any point of time in life pls don't go for marriage. aameeen. god forgive me

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I was in a relationship when I realised that I still loved my ex. In fact, I always loved him. I decided to break up and try to get back with my ex. I was trying for half a year, and we are now together and engaged.

You should follow your heart, and as much as it hurts, you have to be honest to him and to you. You will feel better.

Answer 2

You should not dis respect your husband for first. If your husband is loyal to you. You should probably start spending more time with him. And try to get over your ex boyfriend .