What does it mean when someone tells you that nobody likes the pitiful and to stop being such a drag?

Answer 1

Whoever said that to you did you an enormous favor. If you keep acting that way you won't have any friends.

That could mean a few different things about the way you act when you are with other people. It could mean that you complain a lot, whine, have a negative attitude, are reluctant to try new things, criticize others, fail to give credit to others, think about yourself all the time, blab about your problems, dampen the atmosphere when you get together with friends and are generally no fun to be with. No one likes a complainer who is always focused on their own problems and all the real or imagined grief they get from life.

It's easy to change that kind of behavior once you make an effort to change. Stop focusing on yourself, your needs, your problems and start taking an interest in other people. Act happy even when you don't feel happy. Acting out your negative feelings when out with other people is childish. Be willing to try new things and have fun. Ask questions, show interest when other people are speaking, provide some sympathy when someone else is having a hard time. Compliment others and show gratitude when they do something nice for you or say something nice about you. Be supportive.

Once you get into the habit of behaving differently you will see that it just feels better and people will enjoy having you as part of the group. Once you develop some true friendships you will have someone to talk to privately when you really have a problem and need advice.