What does it mean when you ask someone if they still love you and they say that sometimes they do and sometimes they don't?

Answer 1

OK. I generally try to avoid these kinds of questions, but this one I just couldn't pass up. First of all, you should not be asking someone if they still love you. If they love you, they show it and you know it. If there is any doubt, either you have insecurity issues, or this person is not worth your time. If they tell you that they love you and you don;t believe them, then you need to get out because you don;t trust them and a relationship can't be built without trust. If you are afraid that you may be hurt if you trust them and you are wrong, then you need to get out. Fear of being hurt is not a reason to not trust someone. It's something that can happen and it's just part of the risk of having something great. Love is not a wishy washy thing. It is unconditional. I love my kids. No matter what they do wrong, no matter how mad I get, I still love them. I married a woman I loved once but we grew apart. This is something that can and does happen. But it's something that is gradual and permanent. Not something that just comes and goes. "Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't" is how I feel about peanut butter- not the ones I love. If someone is giving this kind of answer to a question that shouldn't need to be asked in the first place, it tells me that this person simply does not know the answer but doesn't want to hurt your feelings. If they really loved you though, they would know it completely and never even doubt it. Move on and find someone else. Another slant on this subject is the fact that when we either date or are married for sometime then the relationship can grow stale if we don't keep an eye on it (easy to do in a fast-paced world.) No relationship is perfect and arguments can ensue and sometimes we love our mates and other times you feel like packing your bags and moving to a far off country, but, when you cool off and settle down one realizes just how much they do love their mate. I think he's just telling the truth and it doesn't mean he doesn't love you, but it's normal to love someone and then be angry at them hours or days later and just want to walk away at a moments notice. It's simply part of human nature.