What does it mean when your girlfriend says needs time she doesn't know what she want?

Answer 1

Well, I am personally in a very odd situation. I hope talking about my situation can help you with yours. I said something like that to my boyfriend just today. I don't know what I want and I really do need time. I began to wonder if I have a phobia of being in a relationship. Because, I love the guy I'm with. We have a lot of great things going for us, yet there are the complications as well like in every relationship. I always fear that I will one day break his heart because I can't figure out what I really want. So, I told him to go back to when we were just friends. Because we weren't for long, and we just started the relationship so early on. And I think that may be the reason as to why we are so close, yet not close at all at the same time. At the moment, we are pretending we are not in a relationship. I know that it worries him a lot, but he understands that it may actually be for the best. We did not break up and I hope we never do. I just need time, to establish more of a friendship with him, and hopefully the fears will wash away.

I'm sure your relationship isn't exactly the same. I mean, who's really is? I don't know how long you have been going out, or how long much you like/love one another. Being realistic, there is that chance she needs time for a reason. That there could be something wrong, which may lead to her ending the relationship. However, its best to remain optimistic. You know the saying "Absence makes the heart grow fonder"? This could just be a case of that. During this time of being apart, she may realize how much she misses you, and how much she wants to be with you, and that you really are the one for her.

I hope my advice helped. And I hope she gets the time she needs in order to realize that you are the one for her. Oh! Don't push her either! That will drive her away. Give her all the time she needs. However, if it has been a month, or maybe a few months, I do suggest confronting her about it. But don't press the issue. Although, if she just continues to avoid it, then there really might be something wrong in which you should talk to her about it some more.

I think that is about it. Good luck! ^____^