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What happens when a woman stands up to an emotionally abusive partner - will he change?
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∙ 16y ago
I'm sure there will be many individuals giving their feedback on this one. The following is only my opinion and that of a man. I believe that change in an individual comes over time. It's not a spontaneous event. OK, so lets say the woman stands up to him. He is shocked and backs down, or even apologizes. Do we think he's now going to mend his ways? I really do not think so. If he is going to change it will happen over time, and that's if he really feels he needs to change. Most men will become defensive, and the problem escalates. Communication with some one who has abusive tendencies is very difficult. The only way they will change is if they want to change. It's not that they do not have the ability to change, but in most cases refuse to change and for various reasons. So, we can call this resistance to change, which is one of the character traits of an abusive personality.
Now, you have indicated this person as your partner. I am assuming (and I could be way off base) that your partner is a male (but it work the same way regardless of male or female). If this is a husband, much professional counseling may be required to make your marriage work, if you want it to. However, if this individual is not morally and lawfully bonded to you by marriage, then what the heck are you still doing in this relationship? You want some one who is going to treasure you, to build you up, and not tear you down; To encourage you and not discourage you.
Now I must say this. I have seen many women in abusive relationships for years. Finally, they get themselves out of this tourment and guess what? They find another partner with the same characteristics, and it all starts over again. It's like these women have a natural propensity for being abused. Don't let this happen to you. You want to be happy, and enjoy life!! So do it!!
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What type of woman does an emotionally abusive man seek?
An abusive man (emotional,physical, etc.) will seek insecure woman.Woman who are not independant. Someone to take care of their needs.And that is it, someone to satisfy their needs. An abusive man can not change, a woman can not change him. He has to change himself. He had to do it all alone, if he really wants to recover.I really wish all the ladies in abusive relationships strength. That is what they need to leave.
How do you know if a man has changed his emotionally abusive ways?
Watch for consistent changes in behavior and communication, such as controlling tendencies decreasing, respectful communication increasing, and empathy being displayed. It's important to set boundaries and communicate openly about your feelings to gauge if the change is lasting and genuine. Therapy or counseling can also assist with addressing and altering abusive behavior patterns.
Do abusive men always emotionally abuse their partner or is there a girl for whom they will change?
A person's pattern of abuse is less dependent upon the person they are in a relationship with and more dependent on them self. The solution closest to what you are asking about is a person who can help promote a desire for the abuser to change themselves, but this requires that they want to change. In short you can do nothing unless everyone is committed to change. Often professional help such as consoling may be required.
Should you try to work on an emotionally abusive relationship when it becomes long-distance if he swears he will change?
An abusive man never really changes unless there is a traumatic condition or possibly therapy, but even that will often not help. Just leave. Use the "long distance" to get away.
What happens to men who return to abusive relationship?
If they were the abusers and did not get help for their actions, than the pattern will continue. If they did get help, things will change.
Would you tell an ex boyfriend that was emotionally abusive that you knew he cheated when you were together?
I guess the real question is why are you still talking to an ex boyfriend who was emotionally abusive? You can tell him anything you want, but it won't change him. The best thing to do is to figure out why you were attracted to someone who abused you and cheated on you. A therapist or counselor can probably help you sort it out. Do it NOW...before you marry someone like him and have his children....then you will just continue the cycle.
What does a grandmother raising her 3 grandchildren do to get away from an emotionally abusive partner?
Get a restraining order against him....pack up the kids and move out. If you don't want to move, when he's gone, change the locks, get the restraining order and report his abuse to the police. OR...look in your yellow pages and find a local women's shelter to help you. The department of Children and Families should be able to help also.
Will your verbally emotionally and sometimes physically abusive husband ever change?
Sure, he's likely to get worse. Things won't get better unless you make it happen. Either leave him or make him go with you for marriage counseling. See where it goes from there.
Are you in an abusive relationship if your boyfriend has cheated and he was in utter shock when you did and how do you get him to change?
No, you aren't in an abusive relationship, but both of you are very immature. Just because one partner cheats doesn't give the other partner the right to do the same thing. If we aren't true to ourselves (we are our own best friend) then the relationships or anything else you endeavor in life is a waste of time. It's time for both of you to move on in different directions. Marcy
How do you change your partner Pokémon in Pokémon Ranger?
You can not change your partner pokemon.
How do you deal with people in your church who don't understand your leaving an emotionally abusive husband?
By simply changing churches. Exactly! Change churches. They dont care about your well being so I would tell them to hit the road and end contact with that church.
Your abusive partner always promises to get help but this has been going on for eleven years now will he ever change?
Honey for that long, I would of left when he first hit me. No matter what if a guy hits you even if he apoligises, he will keep going.
