What if child support destroys my life?

Answer 1

Rhetorical question.

Let's break this down:

1. If you are the mother, you agreed to have sexual intercourse with the father of the child.

2. If you are the father, you agreed to have sexual intercourse with the mother of the child.

This seems incredibly simple, but stick with it.

3. Five to twenty (estimated, results may vary) of fun, often becomes a lifetime of responsibility.

4. An outcome of that responsibility is that you pay, money, time, the choice is yours.

5. Obviously, by the fact of a support order, you or the other parent never learned well how to play nice with others.

Ultimately, there are consequences for every action. In this case you were, ostensibly (I've never heard anyone receiving support to complain about it) ordered to pay. That's your consequence.

So, you either pay and stay current for the life of the order, or you don't and face garnishment and potential incarceration (yet another consequence for another action).

Let you in on a secret, the support order didn't ruin your life, but you may be. Perhaps you should back up ten yards and reevaluate.

Now, you always have the option to have the case reheard by the court. But, that could mean an increase in ordered support.

Answer 2

Having a child is going to change your life. There is no way around that. How you decide to interact with that child is your decision, but the courts are going to require you to pay to help raise a child that you are the parent of. That is the reason that people should practice abstinence or use protection, so that they don't have children they don't want to support.