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You haven't been honest with yourself and you've not only copped out on your marriage vows, but also yourself! Every marriage has some problems, but mature couples try to work through them. If both decide they just aren't compatible then they should split-up.

It's unfair to your spouse to cheat simply because he/she doesn't make you happy in certain areas. How are they suppose to know unless you sit down with your spouse and express yourself and open up your ears and listen to him/her. Both parties get hurt in a situation like this.

There is something more going on with you then you are willing to admit to yourself. It's more about you than really your spouse. All of us know that after some years of marriage (or even going together for years) it can get dull, but hey, we all have to figure out ways to spice up the relationship.

The grass on the other side of the fence isn't always greener. Because you aren't looking at this or acting in a mature manner you don't get the fact, that no matter who you end up with you are going to have problems in your relationship.

I hope you rethink what you are doing. Have the guts to admit you can't stay in the marriage, be honest with your partner and then hit the road or grow up and try working it out with your spouse!

Marcy

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Your question is legit, but why didn't you just told him what's going on with you. Maybe its hard for you because you don't want to hurt his feelings. But always remember " the truth always hurt" no mater how you put it.

From my own experience that's what my husband did, when I caught his affair with this woman. I stop giving him his needs.

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Q: What if you are having an affair because your spouse does not make you happy in certain areas?
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