What if you can not get over the affair?

Answer 1

Sure you can. Its wont be easy at first but you can get over it. Life goes on

B:

No one can because of the pain. I do believe that in time the pain will ease up slowly. The first year of discovering the affair, all you feel is emptiness, confuse,

wondering what you did or what you missed. The pain of betrayal is the one that

will consume you.

The shock of the affair will stay with you. And the worst case is this flashback that will hit you everytime. Let time heal your pain, let God guide you to be strong. I know because it happened to me 3 years ago and it still painful when the flashback comes back.

C:

Yeah, if you really want to stick with her/him. Depends on why it happened though, women make up reasons it's your fault and not theirs, using weird emotional logic that doesn't pan out if you think it through. Men will get hormonal, "lay the pipe," and won't feel bad about it for months. If it's something that's going to be a problem for a long time, either break it off, make it an open relationship, or otherwise come up with a plan. If you just straight-up can't trust them, though, it's not worth trying to get over it--Just cut your losses.

Answer 2

You don't say who had the affair - you or your partner.

Either way, you ought to leave the marriage. It appears that trust is gone, and being a couple depends on trust.

Personally, I don't agree with divorce, but if my partner had an affair, and I was unable to get over it, I think I would just leave.