What if your husband met a women on the airplane when coming back home and he kept it from you for 8 months now she keeps calling the house and hanging up what do you do?

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AnswerI was receiving phone calls from a young girl who actually had the gall to ask to speak to my husband. I do trust my husband and I know he would never bother a minor and he hasn't cheated on me in 40 years. To make a long story short she was a sales girl in a women's store during Christmas 6 years ago and she was obviously attracted to him. She was all of 16 - 17 years old. My husband just laughed about it, but I told him unless he nipped this in the bud (he wasn't seeing her) there could be problems from this teen as she was a minor. So, when she phoned the next time my husband said, 'That sounds good, how about we meet for coffee and discuss thing?' He heard a loud click! It was a risk, but it paid off! I didn't fly off the handle and there was no reason to worry. AnswerSit down and speak to your husband concerning this calmly. You obviously have a lot to talk about. In the meanwhile you could block her numbers that she calls from so she does not try to call you anymore. AnswerDon't jump to conclusions. He may have just struck up a conversation with her and she is taking this as having a possible relationship with him. Let him have his say first.

You should be able to communicate with your husband now and tell him you just didn't fall off the last turnip truck and what is going on! Tell him you aren't putting up with it. Don't yell or scream, but say it in a calm, but stern manner. Ask him to explain his actions. If he says that they are just friends tell him you aren't buying that one. Friends don't hang up when you answer the phone.

If he is guilty, then skip the harrassment charges and file for separation.

AnswerYou might try changing your phone number to one that's unlisted so she can't get your number and be a pest.

Check out your rights on a restraining order. You CAN file phone harrassment charges. But, depending on the state you reside in, you may NOT be able to file a restraining order. Some states only allow restraining orders on people you have been in an "intimate" relationship with. Or, in certain cases have been sexually assaulted by.

However, if you threaten to have this woman thrown in jail for harrassment to your husband, you can probably tell his feelings for her by his reaction. If he gets on the defense and tries to keep you from doing anything, chances are he is still cheating with her. Examples are if he says, "Just let it go, she'll get tired of calling", etc. Then, I'd re-evaluate if you want to be w/a cheater. You know what they say.."Once a cheat, always a cheat". Weigh out your options and realize that YOU deserve NOT to be treated like that!

I meet people all the time in and have small talk with them but none of them call my house. WHY would he keep it a secret that he had an "innocent" chat with someone on the plane for 8 months. Usually when the "OTHER" women starts calling home its because she wants to know how wifey lives and is jealous that the man is going home to her. Nobody wants to immediately think their spouse is cheating but this is not a normal thing to happen. I wouldn't walk around the issue, I would march right up to it and ask him the deal. Get caller ID and see what number she is calling from, write it down and call the phone company to see if they can tell you who she is. Call her back after speaking to your husband or better yet, put it on speaker phone and start asking her questions or have him call on speaker phone, if she answers the phone, HI HANDSOME< etc, then you know this is not just a crazy women who went out of her way to track some guy she met on the plane eight months ago.

AnswerYou need to sit down and talk to your husband, let him know that you do not like this woman calling the house. If he does not do anything about it, you can file a restraining order on this woman for harrassement. As a last resort, you need to think very long and hard about what you want to do. You can stay with him even after he has cheated on you or you can try to work it out. The choice is yours. I can not tell you what to do. AnswerAsk him straight out. Don't get any ideas before you have proof. Do not get a restraining order because you'll just make them angry. Give him a chance to explain himself first. if his explaintion is uncredible, get a laywers advice. AnswerMy hunch is that your husband and this woman were having an emotional and possibly physical affair. Spouses don't keep secret friends, unless they are behaving in ways with the 'friend' that would cause serious problems in the marriage.

Many of the 'other women' in an affair are more than happy to be discreet when they think there will be a payoff in the end that will make it worth it: the cheating spouse leaves his marriage and wants to be in a full relationship with them. If that payoff doesn't come, then they become angry and see that while they are heartbroken and upset, your husband is going home to you like nothing ever happened. That won't do at all, so she felt it was time to call the wife, namely you, and make sure your life gets as screwed up as your husband made hers.

By asking you to keep this call a secret from your spouse, she is hoping to cause you to doubt your marriage, while trying to get the least amount of fallout on her from your husband for exposing the affair. It causes big problems in the affair when the other woman notifies the wife (even subtly, which this woman is doing) of what is going on. The cheating spouse, in order to save his own skin, tends to throw the other woman off the bridge, at least for the time being.

Do not keep this woman's phone call a secret. But first do some digging of your own--through phone receipts, emails, etc.--to get an idea of how long this has gone on. Gather up your finances and speak privately to an attorney about what you could expect from a divorce. Then lay the evidence on the table and make it clear to your husband that you are aware of his affair with this woman. Be aware that the first confession from your husband most likely won't be the full confession---he'll be more worried about damage control than honesty to you--it will take some time for the whole background of the affair to come out.