Low self-esteem, perhaps combined with justified suspicion, perhaps not.
As long as it's just looking, there's no more or less harm if a wife looks at other men than if a husband looks at other women.
Married or not most men look at other women, but some are just more sneaky about it and it's normal. Women often look at men as well. If your husband is continuously looking at women while with you and makes any inappropriate comments then let him know how you feel and that you don't like it.
Some men look at barely clad women or nude women online because it is the next best thing to looking at these women in a pornographic magazine. Cheating is when you actually take action to contact a person online. It is time you sat down with your husband and communicated on a better note and let him know you do not appreciate him looking at barely clad women.
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You are wise by asking the question, "Why do women blame the other woman when it is the husband who pursues and starts it all.' Too many women are so jealous over the 'other women' they forget that their husband has started the affair and it is the husband they should be going after and not the other woman. It's a turf war ... single women or even married women that start an affair with another woman's husband is heads up for a real war. The husband sits idly by and secretly I do believe that most men who have affairs on their wives enjoy two women fighting over him. Smart women have it out with the husband and do not bother with the other woman.
That is totally for you, your husband and the other woman to decide.
Chill out, looking is allowed.
Men are going to look at other women, even in the pressence of the woman they are with. Looking is not cheating.
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It's like asking 'why do men stare at other women.' Perhaps they may recognize that person from somewhere, but don't know where they had seen them or they may find that person attractive. I will look at good looking men, but I love my husband. It doesn't mean I can't enjoy looking at a handsome man like a fine painting as long as I don't touch! LOL My husband looks at other women and I have no problem with it.
Saint Anne is often invoked as the patron saint for women looking for a husband. She is revered as the mother of the Virgin Mary and the grandmother of Jesus, and is believed to have intercessory powers for couples seeking a spouse. Many women pray to Saint Anne for guidance, inspiration, and help in finding a suitable husband.