Okonkwo wrestled.
Okonkwo fought in wars.
The Igbo culture values strong warriors. This is but one facet of why Okonkwo was respected.
Subjective answer: The thing that upsets Okonkwo the most internally, is the fact that Nwoye is too much like his grandfather Unoka. The one action that gets Okonkwo the most upset externally is finding out that Nwoye has been hanging around the Christians, at which point Okonkwo confronts Nwoye and nearly chokes him to death.
One object Okonkwo drinks from is the skull of the first warrior he killed.
Chinua Achebe hoped to show the culture of the people in Nigeria, as well as the impact of European influence to the indigenous tribes. Achebe wished to show that the culture of Nigeria was deep and meaningful and parallels with European culture; it should not be simply dismissed as a backwards African culture, but seen as one rich with stories and teachings.
Okonkwo's exile is an enriching experience because it teaches Okonkwo the true value of extended family, and also why women are valued. In general, Okonkwo is a self-made man, who values the strength of man, but he is ignorant to many of the strengths and values of women. The setback teaches Okonkwo some humility and how to deal with failure which is seemingly caused by his own will. Further, Okonkwo's exile allows the huge gathering of Okonwko's extended family which enables Uchendu to show briefly the affect of people gathering to form one unit and one voice, something that is lost with the newer generation. Okonkwo's immediate family is enriched with the experience of going to another village and learning their ways.
Obierika invites Okonkwo to witness the negotiation of Akueke's bride price.Obierika tries to assuage Okonkwo's fears of Nwoye not being manly enough.Obierika does not mention Unoka, knowing the Okonkwo is still ashamed of him.Obierika does not fail to criticize Okonkwo for taking part in the sacrifice of Ikemefuna, having also declined to take part in that ceremony.Obierika invites Okonkwo's family to his daughter's wedding.Obierika console Okonkwo on his pending exile.Obierika helps with other friends to carry Okonkwo's yams to his barn. He is trusted to store these yams.Later on, he sells Okonkwo's yams and gives Okonkwo the money in Mbanta.Obierika again visit Okonkwo in Mbanta.Obierika is trusted and paid to build two huts in Okonkwo's old compound.Finally, he takes responsibility for the burying of his friend after he has desecrated himself.
The oracle concluded that Ikemefuma must die. Okonkwo kills Ikemefuma to show his peers that he is not weak. It is ironic that Ikemefuna is, besides Okonkwo, the most manly man in his family.
Okonkwo loses his temper and strikes his wife. Okonkwo kills his adopted son. Okonkwo threatens his wife with a gun. Okonkwo's gun explodes. or Okonkwo violates the Week of Peace. Despite being warned not to do so, Okonkwo takes part in a ceremonial murder. Okonkwo points a gun at one of his wives. Okonkwo accidentally kills a clansman. or Okonkwo beats his wife Okonkwo draws a gun on his wife. Okonkwo murders a boy he has adopted. Okonkwo's gun explodes accidentally and kills a boy.
Ikemefuna was the boy who was adopted by Okonkwo in Chinua Achebe's novel Things Fall Apart. He was taken in by Okonkwo's family as part of a peace settlement between their village and a neighboring one.
And so Okonkwo was ruled by one passion - to hate everything that his father Unoka had loved. One of those things was gentleness and another was idleness.
Okonkwo killed the messenger because he knew that something needed to be done. He was, in fact, a man of action and that is exactly what he did. He feared the change of his culture and religion. Once the missionaries told them what to do and no one stood up for their own beliefs, Okonkwo had had enough and took action. But when he heard the people around him ask, "Why did he do that?" he walked away with the feeling of despair. He knew from that point on that the Ibo culture was no longer in existence.
Okonkwo kills 5 warriors while in war with other villages. He later kills his 'adopted' son, Ikemefuna. He accidentally kills Ekeudu's son at Ekeudu's funeral. Near the end of the book, he kills a messenger who demanded the village stop their meeting. Finally, he kills himself.