What questions might you ask yourself that may mean a family member is an alcoholic?

Answer 1

Do you stay out of the house as much as possible because you hate it there? Do you feel that if the drinker loved you, she or he would stop drinking?

If you feel that if the drinker loved you, she or he would stop drinking, and if you stay out of the house as much as possible to avoid the person, then it could mean that your family member is an alcoholic.
A question that may mean that a family member is an alcoholic is "How do you get over alcohol?".

Answer 2

Questions you might ask yourself that could indicate a family member has trouble with alcohol use might include:

1. Does the person keep alcohol in the house, and must they replace it if the stock gets low?
2. Is replenishing the stock of alcohol more important than taking care of other financial needs, such as for food, utility bills, rent/mortgage?
3. Does the person start drinking in the morning and continues all day?
4. Has alcohol become a habit, like a schedule, such as every evening? every weekend? every celebration?
5. Is alcohol important even when there is nothing to celebrate?
6. Does the drinker make a child "go get me a beer from the kitchen"? Has the child become a "go fetch" person for the drinker?
7. Does a spouse or child feel that the person's alcohol is more important than the child?
8. Does a spouse or child feel unheard, because the person is in an alcohol daze, even when the person is talking and laughing?
9. Does a spouse or child have to "take care of" the drinker's physical well-being? To make sure the person does not trip? does not fall? does not slip off furniture? does not drop a lit cigarette? does not get physically hurt?
10. Does a spouse or child feel they have to step between the drinker and another adult to prevent arguments or physical fights?
    
11. Does a spouse or child find themselves making excuses to others for the drinker? "My dad's asleep right now" when the dad is actually passed out from drinking?
    
12. Does a spouse or child find themselves making excuses to themselves for a drinker's behavior? "If I hadn't made mom angry, she wouldn't have gotten drunk tonight."
    
13. Does a spouse or child find the drinker blames them for drinking? "If I didn't have to listen to you kids whine all day, I wouldn't get drunk."
    
14. Do you feel mostly that you displease the drinker, that you can never do anything "right"?
15. Do you feel no matter how hard you try or what you try, the drinker will always find fault with you?
16. Does your home feel emotionally chaotic?
17. Is your home physically chaotic, with more messes than organization?
18. Does the drinker leave evidence of drinking lying around? empty beer bottles on every table?
19. Does the drinker "hide" bottles of booze in unlikely places, like clothes closets, laundry baskets, in a box hidden behind other items?
20. Do you hate the smell of booze that lingers in your house?
21. Do you hate taking out the garbage because beer bottles stink, or are afraid the neighbors will see or notice?
22. Are you subjected to tirades of verbal abuse?
23. Does the drinker cycle from anger and abuse, to being obnoxiously pleasant and "loving" when drinking? Do you never know what person you will get?
24. Do you hate going home because you don't know which person you'll find--- the sane, "good" parent, or the mean-loving drunk?
25. Do you find yourself wanting to stay at a friend's house, or wishing you could, just to avoid going home?
26. Do you find yourself feeling anxious when NOT at home because you're worried about your drinking parent's well-being or safety?
27. Do you fear leaving the house, or leaving younger siblings at home, because you fear your drinking parent acts in unsafe ways?
28. As a child, are meals at home erratic, or not at all, because your parent/s drink/s?
29. As a child, are your needs unmet because your drinking parent is meeting his/her own needs via alcohol?
30. As a spouse or child, do you give up your own needs to meet the needs of a drinking parent?
    
31. As a child, do you seek another adult when you need your parent?
32. Have you ever sought another adult to sign school papers because your parent was too drunk to understand what you asked them to do about school papers you need signed and returned?
33. Have you ever had to miss school because of some reason related to your parent's drinking?
34. Have you ever lied about why you missed school, when the reason was your parent was drunk or hung over?
35. Have you ever wished you were in school when you had to stay home because of your parent's drinking?
36. Have you ever feared your drinking parent would be in such bad physical state that you'd need to call an ambulance?
37. Have you ever had to call 911 or police because of your parent/s' drinking?
38. Were you ever scared enough because of their alcohol abuse that you wanted to call 911 / police -- but did not because you were even more afraid to make the call?
39. Did you ever feel so mixed up, confused, scared, unsure, uncertain that you did not know what was "right" or "best" to do?
40. Have you ever wished your parent/s' alcohol abuse did not become a secret you feel you have to keep?
41. Do you fear your parent's drinking will end up causing your parents to divorce?
42. Do you fear "what will happen?" if your parent keeps drinking?
43. Did drinking ever lead to the drinker hurting you?
44. Did drinking ever lead to the drinker threatening you?
    
45. Did drinking ever lead to the drinker asking or telling you to outright lie for them?
    
46. Did drinking ever lead to you feeling ashamed of the drinker?
    
47. Do you feel you are shameful because your parent drinks?
48. Do you feel it's "all my fault"?
49. Do you feel you are your own parent, because your drinking parent cannot parent you?
    
50. Does no outsider seem to understand there's a problem---a BIG problem?

If these 50 questions describe your home life, you may need to trust someone and tell what is happening to you.