The Reverand and Mrs
This could be done in several ways. I believe the current best practice would be The Reverend and Mr. Smith.
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Pastor McKnight's wife's name is Cynthia McKnight. Pastor Warren C. McKnight, Sr. is the pastor of the Love Kingdom Fellowship Church.
Pastor Bob Joyce's wife's name is Debbie Joyce.
Dr. and Mr. Smith
Pastor Arnold Murray's wife, Nancy Murray, passed away in 2014.
"Dr and Mrs Smith" is the correct salutation. (With Smith replaced with the correct surname)
Rabbi and Mrs.
Dr. and Mr. Smith.
Pastor is entirely proper, so is reverend. Since they usually have Doctor of Divinity degrees, Doctor is often a preferred title, especially in the more evangelical churches.
The Pastor's Wife - 2011 TV is rated/received certificates of: USA:TV-PG