What should you do if you and your boyfriend feel weird around another couple?

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is it a certain couple or all couples? It may be that you two are not at a time in your relationship where you can be around other couples, I wouldn't worry too much about it, if you don't get along with certain people then perhaps don't visit as a couple. You can't get along with everyone.

answer of the worlds first dumb brunnetehey this isn't coming from a genius!!.... but maybe you guys don't like being around different couples because yyou guys yourselfs as couples aren't secure enough but who said you have to be around other couples you guys should be with no one but each other or your parents if its getting serious!!

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I suppose it depends on "weird". There is a medical condition called Social Anxiety that is treated with an anti-anxiety pill called Lorazepam (from the Valium family). However, I suppose it is unlikely (though possible) that both you and your boyfriend have this medical condition, and you should perhaps consider a visit or two to a therapist in your area to talk about it. Psychology Today has an online service that will identify therapists in your area by their specialty, like social anxiety.

On the other hand, assuming it is not a medical condition, you would have to talk with each other over why you think you are both experiencing this, especially if it is just one couple you both feel weird around. Perhaps you both feel that this couple is trying to manipulate you into a group sex session and you are picking up on their veiled "feeling out" process. Perhaps (and this has happened to me) you feel intimidated because you feel you cannot discuss intense world-ranging subjects like middle-eastern politics, religion, or nuclear physics (dang it, which IS the radioactive one, Uranium 235 or 238) with the same easy grace as these other people. This could well come if you are substantially younger, or less well-educated than the people you hang around with. If any of these scenarios is the case, I suppose the only thing you can do is try and create a social circle with whom you CAN feel comfortable on your own level. People who talk about things in which you are both interested. If I am right about the group sex thing, and you are both consenting adults, then you would have to decide for yourselves if this is a lifestyle you can or want to be comfortable with. My opinion, though (and it is totally non-scientific, which is why I advocate a stop at a therapist) is that if you feel uncomfortable now, you would be even more uncomfortable if it progresses to its conclusion. If you value the other couple, and do not want to lose them, then perhaps you know them well enough to discuss your feelings with them. If they are just casual "friends of a friend" and you are uncomfortable around them, then perhaps you should just stop seeing them. If you turn down their invitations consistently enough, sooner or later your phone will stop ringing as they move on.Phil