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What should you do if you found out your wife was having an affair for the past year and she says now after 21 years of marriage that she was never sexually attracted to you from the beginning?

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2011-09-13 13:04:12
2011-09-13 13:04:12

she has been cheating on you ? she has broken the honor and vows of commitment,as well as your heart, is this true? I am no wise seer of life or relationships but I do know when it is time to change and I am going to be doing that myself soon. Life is a wonderfull gift and when you share that with someone and they agree to do so that's the way it should be, not perfect just respected and understood mutualy in the relationship, we are humans we change, we make mistakes and it is up to us to take care of ourselves as best as we can regaurdless. Ask yourself first though before you make the decesion have you ever cheated on her, or hurt her or used her, mentaly, physicaly or in an selfish unknown way you did not see?Ask yourself why is this happening, but most of all be honest with your questions and answers for the truth and reality is the key and anything else could bring more negativity and pain to you and her. be well and find your peace and happieness.

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