What should you do if your boyfriend keeps doing things to irritate you and you politely ask him to stop but he doesn't?

Answer 1

Here are some thoughts to consider: Are you SURE you don't do things that irritate him? This may be his way of getting even. You probably have a lot of positive feelings for him and like his good points, but you're seeing another side of him that irritates you at times. If he has siblings or pets, how does he treat them? Is he respectful to his parents or your parents? If he doesn't treat those around him with respect, in all likelihood he is not happy with himself and may tend to take that out on those closest to him, including you. Which in that case, you could end up in an abusive relationship where, over time, could cause you to be seriously hurt. Another possibility is that he knows he's irritating you and he does it just to get you going. It may be that his dad or siblings probably do/did that to him and he may consider that a part of a "normal" relationship with someone he cares for. He thinks he's being cute or playful and may not be aware (or care) that you don't appreciate this type of behavior, even though you repeatedly ask him to not do that with you. If you're considering marriage or a long term relationship, don't think you can change him...he won't change. You'll just get more & more frustrated with him until you finally get mad enough to leave, chalking up yet another hurting and broken relationship. If you feel like you're putting more into the relationship than what you're getting in return, it may be time to leave him and get on with your life. There are plenty of guys out there who are respectful and know how to treat a girl with the honor and respect that you deserve. It may also be that he is slightly hyperactive/adhd and gets bored of sitting around (not even talking) for extended periods of time and shows his displeasure by entertaining himself in any manner he can come up with. Your poor boyfriend....