What do you do if your parents hit you?

Answer 1

== == There is absolutely no excuse for a man to hit a woman. If a woman is out of control then the man should leave the premises before things get too hot to handle. However, people can make a mistake and if this is the first time, nip it in the bud! I was married to my ex for almost 4 years and he hit me (no reason at all; his day just didn't go great) and it was the first and last time he every hit me. I hit him over the head with a Teflon frying pan! I don't suggest you do such a thing, but make it loud and clear to your husband he'll never get away with it again. If he's been abusive for a long while, then phone the police from a neighbors and have him arrested. While he is in jail (usually 24 hours just to cool him off) seek help from Women's Centers in your area. They have female counselors there and they also welcome children. From there you will be sent to what they call a Transition House. This is also a "safe house" where your husband can't find you and they will help you start your life on your own (but you have to be willing to help yourself as well.) Be sure you plan things well before you leave: You can walk into any Women's Center for help and they will advise you further. Have your bags packed (if you have children pack their things) and realize that once you step out that door you should never go back! If you think this man will change (no matter how much he pleads) he won't and by taking such action he'll make you pay for it dearly and will keep a keen eye on you at all times. Be sure you never phone for help from your home phone (use a neighbors or a pay phone) and don't say anything to the children in case they accidentally say something. Tell no one where you are going! Be sure you don't leave messages of any type on your computer (delete them) and then delete them again from the deleted folder. Good luck Marcy I concur with much of the previous answer. However, my perpective is a little different. I work in law and have handled too many divorces to give an accurate count. Far too many broken hearts and families have been processed through the courts. There is no such thing as a good divorce. Everyone feels something, as well they ought. And I certainly question anyone who doesn't. I know how you feel. I have been separated and on my own for many years. I met my husband when he was 12 years old and he told me he would marry me one day when he was yet only 13. It seemed the perfect romance and marriage. A huge investment emotionally, financially and in family terms. All of my family knew all of his and this made things even more difficult. Together we owned property, ran businesses and others looked up to us. There were so many 'reasons' to not just leave. Things seemed so 'complicated'. Continually second guessing myself only prolonged the inevitable. In retrospect, I should have left long before I did. Don't make the same mistake. I won't pretend to know and understand all of your personal thoughts and feelings. You know your situation better than I. Abuse cannot be tolerated. Appeasing the aggresor make him more aggressive. Never doubt this and always keep this in mind. You must get a clear message to your spouse that you will not and cannot tolerate any abuse - physical or verbal. That's your first step. Visit this site for information on saving your marriage and stopping divorce, if you HONESTLY believe you can. Don't play games with yourself and don't allow others to manipulate you. Be honest with yourself first and foremost.

If you know things will not change, don't wait for things to get worse. If you feel alienated or isolated in any way, this is a common sign of one who is living in an abusive relationship. Fix that situation right now! Another common element in spousal abusers is that they are always so very sorry in the immediate. Maybe they even believe it themselves, at the time. But most will reoffend. That's for sure. Don't lie to yourself about it. Just accept it. Do something. The situation will not remain static and unmoving just because you fail to take action. These things don't just take care of themselves.

Answer 2

You try to calm them down. If that doesn't work try to just get away from them.. go to your room or something.

Never RUNAWAY! You might regret it.

NEVER hit them back. They get fired up and would most likely want to hit you some more.

I have parents that hit me and I really get frustrating and think "These people are REALLY my parents." Just remember. these people gave you life but if they get out of hand, call the police!

Answer 3

Support your mother, help her to see that this is not normal behaviour and to escape from your violent father, you may be able to find a shelter in your city. She probably thinks it is her fault because she does something wrong. But she has done nothing wrong and violence is NEVER acceptable. You don't say how old you are but Children's Services may be able to help. Good luck.

Answer 4

You find someone you trust like a school counsellor and you tell them what is happening and how it makes you feel, My best friend gets beaten up and locked in her room by her dad and is now unfornchantly DEAD but she didn't get help. Just get help and make sure your dad gets in jail. the evil basted!

Answer 5

Regular physical abuse from anyone is not acceptable. Contact the police.

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Other options: Contact the child welfare branch of your state government. If you don't know what it's called, any school counselor will know, and your medical doctor will know, too. Here in Rhode Island it's called DCYF, the Department of Children, Youth, and Families. Each state has its own name. Better yet, if your mom is willing, and she should be if she believes you, she should call them and report what's happening. You should both know that doing this might cause some temporary upheavals in your family, but there is no way that you should be subjected to any kind of abuse, physical or emotional. If there are adults who have witnessed your dad abusing you in any way, you could ask them to call the child welfare branch as well.

If there are bruises or other physical signs of abuse, you should go to your doctor and have them checked out. Explain to your doctor how you got them. If all these steps don't end up with you getting some kind of help, I would wonder about the soundness of your state's child welfare system.

You find someone you trust like a school counsellor and you tell them what is happening and how it makes you feel. Call: Childline 0800 1111 (in the UK). It is a free reliable service running 24/7. It is confidential unless it is Life and death/illegal situation.

Answer 6

You should report it to an adult right away. They will work with the child protection services to find a safe place for you.

Answer 7

Tell a trusted adult: a relative, a teacher, or a school counselor.

Answer 8

if your parents hit you u should tel an adult you trust like a teacher a scool consler or the police